[SimplySarah]

I recently joined this site with the hopes that I could find ways to help my friend cope with his illness. He has psychotic depression, although he has been on meds for several years now, he was having a hard time. Monday, my friend tried to commit suicide, and is now in the hospital. He moved out of state and I have no way of being able to see him right now. I haven't talked to him since this happened and I am not sure when I will get to talk to him again. His mom was going to have him committed, so I have been told. She is planning on getting him into a place and then coming back home. She will not bring him back to our home state for some reason. From what I gather, she doesn't seem to understand his illness at all. He has very little support and I want to help any way that I can. Anybody have any ideas of how I can be supportive from so far away? I'm worried sick about him, and I don't know how I can, or if I can help.

[nowheretorun]

hi Sarah : )

i would center myself in a place best to help my friend from...

research, get information from several sources, check opinions and double check them

continue the care you have and be cautious you do not become consumed by it whit grief, should unfortunate situations arise which are out of your control, such as the move....

unless against Drs' advice, i would attempt to make contact with my friend in reasonable and sensible ways...

i would hold position and practice patience and faith throughout using whatever grounding techniques worked for me..

i would self-protect in consideration that certain factors and elements are beyond my control and i would consistently hope for the best and most positive outcome i could imagine and work towards its goal for myself and all involved..

dont forget to breathe : )

[Flinty]

Hi Sarah,

I agree with nowheretorun!!!
Some things regarding your friend, will be totally out of your control & don't let that get you down!!!

Sarah

[(JD)]

What a good friend you are to this guy! Even in lock up he can receive written notes and cards. Why not begin writing to him? The nature of the disorder brings such times of need as this, and if you can realize that his mom lived with him and saw maybe more than you did, that might bring you closer to her, and him in the long run.