[ziggy1]

Don't really know what to say...except I feel my insaity starting to set in!! I'm a an adult but refuse to ask for out-side help, thats the way I was brought up.

We can't cry, we are a burden to complain, so everything is held
in with out release. Last May I was hospitalized for a suicide
attempt, in a coma for 4 days and its a miracle I'm alive today!

I hate living like this....My mother is sick as most of you know
from dementia, and respiratory problems. Now I have Oxygen to
take care of, meds, meals, Bills for her and I. I having S Ideations againa....it scares me, but once I cross the threshold
its no stopping mee.

I'm so exhausted most of the time, my body hurts and I just get so disgusted.....I just felt I needed to Vent.

I haven't been on as much lately cause I'm running 24/7!!! Its
taking such a toll on me...I just need to sleep for a long time!

Hey Ziggy!! Try to look at it this way......

As adults, we are expected to find a solution to a problem when it hits. If this health issues is a problem, than as an adult, we are expected to find a solution to it and the solution is to seek advice of those who can best treat the challenge.

As an adult, you are not being weak, you are being smart. To see a problem developing and do nothing about it....that is more of a weakness.

Please try to find teh solutions and praise yourself for teh wsie decisions. It take s a smart person to do so. I know you are smart Ziggy. And you are special and important to us all.

[alyssa_angel]

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i wish i had some words of comfort or somthing to say that woul make it all better but i dont

i hope things start to loook up soon, hun youmust ask for outside help now is the time to do it, it doesnt make u weak, it makes u assertive

love xxxxxx

[ziggy1]

Thank you all alyssa and Ingrid its seems to be so simple, YET,

so PARALYZING at times.... ....Hopefully this is just a

bad day..!!!!!!

[foreverlost]

Hey ziggy1. I don't know you or your situation, but I'm very familiar with the reality that all caregivers need BREAKS at times. My mother took care of my Alzheimer's Dad for years. He wandered and it was a 36-hr. day job. Without scheduled breaks, when she knew he was safe and she could take a nap, or a walk, whatever, she simply could not have done it. We did not want to see her go down (she wasn't young) taking take of him. Losing one parent was bad enough. So, the long and the short of it is, imo, you DO need help. You can't take care of someone else unless you take care of yourself first. But, you're going to have to get over the pride of not asking for help. It isn't easy. I grew up that way too, but the world has changed and we all need to help each other more. Sometime there are even community services to give care-givers breaks. It's SO important to do this for YOURSELF!

Take care.

[RozG]

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i don't know what to say for fear of saying the wrong thing but i just want you to know i do understand. i used to get exhausted tending for my late husband. it exhausts you body and mind when it's 24/7 so i'm not surprised you feel the way you do just now. you've been caring for your Mom a long time now.

i don't want to offend you by saying the wrong thing but the only thing i can think of is short-term respite care for her if possible so you can get some time to tend to yourself for a little while, just some much needed rest.

sorry if that's a stupid or offensive suggestion.

please feel free to PM me any time for anything ok?

Hope things get better for you soon.

[Doh2007]

I'm so sorry you're going through so much right now. Please be kind to yourself.

[nina52]

Hey Ziggy,

At this moment I feel exactly as you do, and I can totally relate to being a care giver. I am not sure if everyone here knows my story, but my sister (51), is dying, in her last stage of life.
I think that we all carry our pain, while peoples circumstances are different. Some people can take more pain than others, but none the less, pain is pain, depression is one of the hardest things that I am going through, other than the pain of watching a loved one passing. All of this hurts, a lot, some for more than others.
With me, I am here to help and listen to anyone who wants to share their story, or just vent. It is wonderful to have a friend to talk to, and to help as well.
I am sure we all have negative things going on in our lives and sometimes it feels better, at least to me, to share my pain to a friend , and it works both ways.
I understand Zig, and when you are ready to talk, you can find me.
This also goes for everyone, and anyone who just needs someone to listen to them.
I have met many wonderful people here, and I am very grateful for that.
Thanks for listening,
Nina

[Christina86]

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[Fuzzybear]

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[Justgiving]

If it can help you to make the decision to ask for help a bit easier, tell yourself, you are asking help for your mother and not for you. Then let someone take over, here and there, and get some rest.

We all need time for ourself.

[TaintedGoth1]

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I agree, Ziggy....rest for you can result in better future help you can give your mom. I have always been told that as a caregiver, you have to take care of yourself first, so that you can be strong to help another.

Take some rest if you can and remember that we all care for you.

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