I know i have moaned about my daughter recently ..... more I suppose because her b/f was always here and we live in a small house .... she left this morning with her grandparents to live with them down south for the summer to earn some money for uni .... and to get away from Derby where we live cos she hates it ..... we are seeing her for a week in 3 weeks .... then going to a festival, then she's at uni ....

I just feel like this is the end of her ever being with us for any length of time again .... like e have always been 4 ... now, although she will always be in touch, the family has changed ... I feel she has taken a piece of me with her .... i feel empty. I just keep bursting into tears ..... i thought i was looking fwd to some peace .... but i feel lost ..... i am happy and proud that she is so independant .... happy she is confident enough to do this ..... why do i hurt so much? She only left a few hours ago and i am missing her already...... saying goodye was so hard ..... i wanted to grab her and keep her here where I know she is safe ......

i know this is pathetic ...... i just feel SO sad

[Timgt5]

(((Jinnyann)))

This is not pathetic, this is a post by mother who truly loves her daughter, not a thing in the world wrong with that. It is a big adjustment for anyone. So do not feel bad about yourself at all, just know that all the wonderful qualities she has are in part because you were there for her in those 19 years and will continue to be there when she needs you, albeit in a slightly different capacity.

I will never live to have children (for a lot of reasons) so I will never know all of the feelings attached but I will empathize with you the best I can, just know that even if she is no longer living there with you, she still treasures you always.

So yes, cry away, miss her, but most of all be proud of the young woman she has become and wish her well.

Take care...

TJ

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((( jinny )))))))))))))))
not pathetic, my friend

[healer2011]

I can understand that empty feeling. It is like you say...when someone you love leaves they really do take a small piece of you with them. I think it is pretty normal to feel sad and I think it is pretty brave of you to be honest about how you feel.

[pegasus]

My eldest daughter left home last year so I know of that awful feeling that you have right now. If you had a good relationship with her before she left there is no reason why that good relationship can't continue. At least you know she is safe and well. Hang in there.

(((((((((((( jinnyann ))))))))))))))

...thankyou all so much.... i dont quite know what to do with myself right now..... i heard from her, she is overlooking the sea and cliffs, she sounded a bit ..... quiet, maybe she is feeling a little strange too. I really feel quite wierd ..... i'm not sure how i'm ging to cope with this at all ..... my son seems a bit down too ..... it broke my heart seeing them hug this morning, sometimes i wish they were toddlers again,selfish i suppose. But i knew they were safe and sound and what they were doing and where they were all the time ..... Jx

[Mouse_]

Yes it will feel strange for a while. Give yourself time and space to mourn the loss.

[mak62184]

Don't worry about it. I'm sure everything will be good again in no time. My dad went through a similar thing when I left for college 5 years ago. This about it this way, although your daughter may seem like she is all ready and excited to be away from home, maybe she isn't. It took me a whole week to get adjusted to being independant and on my own. Heck, after the first week at college, I was ready to come home and never go back. I did go home for the labor day weekend because nobody was going to be at school, but after that, I was fine. I think I even called my parents once that week. My roommates were constantly calling their parents. I'm sure everything will be fine for you and your family. Just believe.