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#1
Nov 24, 2008, 05:58 PM
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I don't know if this is depression-related or not, but I've been getting into a lot of discussions lately about emotional entitlement, that concept of 'I deserve to be loved' or 'I have the right to be happy'.
I never have that sort of feeling like I deserve anything, or have the right to feel or expect anything. I don't think anyone does, really. Why do people think that being happy is a right & not a privilege? Why do people think they deserve to be loved, respected, etc. when they haven't done anything worthwhile or notable? I don't know, maybe it's just me. I don't go out of my way to do anything anymore. I just try to be myself & get from one day to the next without causing too much inconvenience to the world around me. How do you justify deserving to feel a certain way to other people? What makes you feel like you have a right to be happy or even content?
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Nov 25, 2008, 09:49 AM
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Sorry that you are feeling like you do, but you are right to say you deserve to be happy, loved and so much more. Have you thought about seeing a therapist? That is one way to see if you do or don't suffer from depression. Continue to work on being happy and strong from day to day, and soon good things will happen to you.
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Nov 25, 2008, 10:12 AM
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I don't know if there is any clear cut answer to the question of entitlement...I think much of it is taught but there are certainly emotional aspects that come from loss or trama. In different cultures there is less of it,,and I suspect that lessening has to do with a more stagnant society..in places of great change, immediate gratification and less consequece to actions,,seeds of entitlement are born... IMHO. Lenny
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Nov 25, 2008, 10:18 AM
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I also think that this is a good question. Children deserve to be loved, adults too. Pure love has a power that sweeps away badness. Some people run from love for various reasons. I think that it is quite an incredible thing if you really think about its power. I am only talking about the pure form though, not the kind that has anything else attached to it like manipulation or any other kind of dysfunction......
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Nov 25, 2008, 10:19 AM
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My opinion is we have the right to happiness because we are. It isn't dependent on anything or anyone else. It isn't something someone can say, "your happiness privledges are taken away for two weeks because you did...." You deserve happiness because you live.
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