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Magnate
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Location: Yorkshire, UK
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Dec 09, 2008 at 12:44 PM
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Why do I screw things up... why do i upset people. I care a lot about people, but I still seem to hurt them
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Elder
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Location: MI
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Dec 09, 2008 at 12:50 PM
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Really? You think you're an idiot?? I happen to think you are a very smart and caring and gentle and kind and loving young lady. One of us is wrong and I'll take bets that it's not me!!
 "why do I upset people?"....there is a saying that I really hate--mostly because it is so true--"People can't make you mad, you can choose to be mad (hurt, etc)." Meaning, you have made nobody mad. Maybe there was a misunderstanding, but they took your words and chose to let themselves be mad. I'm sure you didn't set out by saying, "hmmm, I'm feeling evil today, I think I'll make Sally mad at me. I'll try to help, but I plan on making her mad." Of course not, honey. Don't beat yourself up. If you think something you have said may have upset someone, talk to them, let them know that wasn't your intention. Molly, you have enough going on right now, don't beat yourself up, give yourself the same slack you would give a friend.
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Elder
Member Since Mar 2008
Location: Indiana
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Dec 09, 2008 at 01:09 PM
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(((((((((((( molly )))))))))))))
I agree with cantstopcrying you are not an idiot or mean person who walks around with the intention of hurting others. Please try not to be so hard on yourself.
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Wise Elder
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Location: Colorado
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Dec 09, 2008 at 03:06 PM
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I always am thinking i'm hurting people but it's a funny thing, especially over that past week I've been forced to take a look at all my friendships at school.
Despite all the wrongs I thought I did them, all of the people i've talked to really really want me to stick around maybe you're not hurtin ghtem as much as you thought
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