[hamstergirl]

Richard the Creep was starting to make noises about taking me out again. The last time he did that, he considered that as a platform for announcing he was sexually attracted to me. He's also remarked that I wasn't wearing a bra under my shirt. At the time he announced his intentions he barely knew me.

I've told him I wasn't interested in a sexual relationship and it still goes on as before. So I decided to end this. On Father Lindsay's advice and with a little prodding from Doug, I phoned the police. They sent someone over and basically put the fear of cops in him.

So it's over and on my father's advice, I'm not to give this guy so much as a cheery hello, because that gives him the idea that I want him around. And my father says I don't even need a reason to go into radio silence. And if that isn't enough to deter Richard and he persists in showing up, phone the cops and let them handle it and start yelling when he does show up.

It's against my nature to be rude, but this guy is feeding off my politeness. So rudeness wins out.

So it's over...unless he comes whining to me about going to the cops....or worse.

I'm going to give the cop assigned to my case a nice big box of Timbits for his trouble (mini donuts) I don't usually do that unless I am profoundly grateful for whatever they've done for me, even if it was his job. I've been running from this moron for over a year. And I'm not the only woman he's done this to, but I'm the first who's gone to the cops. Guess the other woman was too scared and I don't blame her. If it weren't for Father Lindsay, I would have started looking for another church.

Wow! That's excellent! It takes courage to move out of our comfort zone (politeness) and take a stand. You did a really good thing. Hopefully this idiot will get the message. He needs to learn that he can't harrass women. He ain't in charge of us!

You did a REALLY good thing! For you and for ALL of us!!

emmy

[AllDone]

(((((hamstergirl))))),

Good for you! You're doing the right thing. He sounds pretty awful and no one derserves that kind of attention.

And I definitely agree with your father. But I know it's hard for you to be what you consider "rude". I hate to think of it that way, though. You're just doing what you need to do to protect yourself. And based on Richard the Creep's actions, he hardly knows what rude is anyway, otherwise he wouldn't have acted like he did.

I once went to my boss about a co-worker that constantly made inappropriate comments to me. It wasn't easy, but it paid out in the end because he left me alone. I hope this guy gets it.

I'm with Em on this one (and trust me, she's a smart cookie)



Take care,
Laurie

[kimmydawn]

WTG, hgirl

i don't consider keeping self emotionally or physicall safe rude. not speaking or giving attn to this person i don't consider rude in the least...i consider it smart good job!

[Myzen]

Hi Hamstergirl,

You're cool, and that's official.

Cheers, Myzen

[Nerak]

Good for you - Way to go

[Wants2Fly]

Hi HG --

Sounds like a bad situation, and I'm glad you had the support of Father Lindsay and your dad. It really is a shame that even a polite "hello" can be misinterpreted by some men.

My hat's off to you for taking a strong stand to make your world a safer place. Why should you have to change churches? This is a stabilizing force in your life!

Hope things work out for you. Glad your back online with us.

[gardenergirl]

Good for you for establishing and maintaining a boundary. That's never rude. Woo hoo!

Three cheers for hamstergirl! Woo hoo! Woo hoo! Woo hoo!

I hope he gets the message and backs off. If he doesn't, I'm glad you have support and a plan.

Take care,
gg

[wisewoman]

Hey Hampstergirl, glad you took a great step with protective boundaries. Soak up all of the great words here.