 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Jan 05, 2009, 10:01 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
It seems like everything is always my fault. If something goes wrong my husband says it is because of me. If i do not get perfect scores in school, then i am not good enough to go to school. I am just wasting time.
If i want something it is to much of a bother, i do not deserve it. I am so sick of hearing all this all the time. no wonder i cannot quit thinking what if? so many what ifs and i am not acting on them at least for now. It takes alot of effort to want to even get on the computer, how stupid is that. So i guess a question i have now that i complained again is What did I do wrong? If anything goes wrong go ahead and blame me. i probally influenced it somehow, i am used to it. |
|
#2
Jan 05, 2009, 10:27 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
(((((((((((mistymi)))))))))))
I don't think you did anything wrong. I think that sometimes, while growing up, we assume it's our fault and carry that through with us. And sometimes we ARE blamed and carry that forward. I can relate to how you feel (not good enough). I often feel that way, but finally I think there is a small chink in the armor and maybe it's getting through to me that not everything can possibly be my fault (what a concept, huh?). I also understand not being able to put the effort into anything, including the computer. Lots of hugs to you. 
__________________
"What is Real? asked the Velveteen Rabbit one day. "Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real." "Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit. "Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt." -The Velveteen Rabbit by Marjorie Williams |
|
#3
Jan 05, 2009, 11:07 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
it sounds like your husband is the problem, not you. if i'm understanding correctly. the gist of what i got is that regardless of what you do, you are being blamed for anything that goes wrong. if that is the case the problem does not lie with you.
my abusive ex-husband used to blame me for things i wasn't even present for! an example: he wrecked his car coming home from work and i caught hell when he got home because of this. it's enough to start second guessing yourself in a situation like this cause the logic is skewed. so if i'm right about what you meant, the problem is not you. the blame or emotional abuse is coming from your husband.he is the problem! if i misinterpreted what you meant, i'm sorry. be kind to yourself.
__________________
Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
|
#4
Jan 07, 2009, 01:58 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
