hate hate hate parents!!

I HATE MY PARENTS!!!!!
they invaded my personal privacy...found my journal (supposedly they were looking for my car keys when there is always an extra set of keys downstairs) and stumbled upon it...and READ IT!! wtf that is so not fair. and they found cigarettes and adderall and freaked out. how can they do this to me though, they read everything..they know everything now. that is so not right. everything i wanted to hide from them is now gone...out in the open.

i dont think ill ever be able to forgive them, ever trust them ever again. i feel uncomfortable and weird around them now with them knowing all my secrets. i was going to get help and i didnt mind if they knew that...but the fact that they knowwwwww i cut, know i am so unhappy and do drugs.....just kills me GRR

sorry just ranting, but

don't know if i can last 5 more days at home. wanna runaway. wanna go back toschool NOW NOWNOWNOW

i've got mixed feelings on your post. that is, if you're 18 this is a total invasion of your privacy. not cool. however if you are 18 and your parents are totally worrying about you and your behaviors, plus you wouldn't open up to them, they may have felt you gave them no choice. i'm not defending them...i'm not in their shoes, but clearly they love you a lot and are very concerned for your well being...cutting, dope, saying you're fine when they knew you weren't fine, etc. some of the issues you have discussed in this forum indicate you do need professional help, IMHO. i'm sorry you weren't able to meet them half way so it didn't come to this desperate measure on their part and a violation of your privacy on your part.
if you are under 18 they do have the right to invade your privacy if they feel your health and well bring is in danger.
i hope things will work out for you. i realize this is a break of trust. i hope you and your family can get to the bottom of what help you need and be supportive to you.
and if ranting helps, i'll listen. it helps sometimes to just let it all out.

Thanks. I am 18 and it was a total invasion of my privacy. I really will never trust them again. I'm so hurt. I know they are just caring for me but they just came into my life to help me with my issues and that's just what I didn't want. I told my dad I will deal with it on my own but if I needed him I would come to him. Ugh I'm just frustrated

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Hello, welcome to the FRA, the free-rant area

You are right, it is unforgivable
I may be biased, becaused I still have to fight to keep pa and ma at bay, at my age. And I not always succeed, GRRR

You may consider forgiving only if they realize the error and apologize warmly.
For the future, write secrets in a file and encrypt it.

Having said this, you shouldn't even do something just because your parents don't want you to. It would be just another way of being driven by them!

For instance, as an autonomous individual, you may want to quit smoking. At your age it can make a LOT of damage.

your 18...one day when your old like me you'll better understand your parents...

they are not out to get you...just protective

if you were my child...id be pretty pi&&ed off

That really is an invasion of privacy, my parents went through my purse once, found a perscription bottle, and FREAKED OUT. They did not even take the time to notice the fact that they were just my paxil...

WOW
I'm so so sorry that happened - I know you were already having a rough time...

What did they say about it later? If it were me - I'd be afraid how they'd react , is why I ask. Were they at all supportive? Angry? Or did they not talk to you about it?

loads of hugs, my thoughts are with you

they said i let them down. and they were angry at me for hiding all this from them. but im just as angry at them for invading my personal privacy. they called my therapist and went to her by themselves and then went with me the next time i went....made it worse....things were soooo bad with them in the room. i hate that therapist she talked out in the open about me CUTTING like my parents know but i never actually talked about it with them. my mom now doesnt feel safe with me ging back to school

its all a big big big mess that i cant get out of

*hugs*
you CAN get out of this. you aren't totally trapped. I know it feels like you are, but what you have to do now is look at what you can do. I know you hate talking about this issue at all, and that it will be hard to deal with your therapist now.

There's nothing you can do about your parents knowing, but there IS something you can do about how you react to THEIR reaction.

They say you let them down, and were angry at hiding it from them. But you're 18, they feel that you need to tell them stuff because they're your parents but, really, you don't have to. They were shocked, they were... being typical parents. their reaction doesn't make you bad at all.

Next time you meet with your therapist talk about how you felt to have your parents know all this.

To be honest, you're NOT safe. You can be a danger to yourself. And that needs to change. You know that. But that doesn't mean life stops, life keeps going. People who haven't experienced si doesn't always understand - and they don't know how to deal with it. Your parents want to protect you - they just don't know how to protect you from yourself. The best way you can make them get off your back, is to start getting better... that's your priority now. Not getting away from your parents, not feeling happy, not getting your grades up, not hanging with your friends (although all these things relate to it). your NUMBER ONE PRIORITY = feel better, get better, get safe, and keep going in that direction. That doesnt happen right away. But do your best to start

sending loads of hugs
thinking of you
~turquoisesea

im trying to get better i am willing tooo. ughhh i tell them that everyday. i willll go crazy on them if they dont let me go bck to school you haveee no idea. im calling this therapist down at school tomorrow to see if i can go to her and if that works out....hopefully my parents willl be willing to let me go back as long as i have someone down there for me. soo im HOPING! but still...i just cant look at my parents with them knowing all this. i was going to therapyy and i dont care that they knew that i was over that...but now that this is all out..they read my poems my everything. i cant get over it. they know i go on here and probably checked the website. its not a bad thing but just weird they know all this. blahhhh

I DO know. Remember, just this past month I faced my parents over a similar thing. I thought I might not be able to get back to the area I go to school in. I thought they would hold me for 6 months or more. I'm returning to school.
Yes, it will help having people there at school for you. Give them a small amount of time to take in the information - sometimes shock can cause a bad reaction. I know it's weird, but all you can do is work with it.

thanks

i'm trying to work with them as much as i can so i can go back to school...on sunday. which is only a day away ah but if the therapist at school can see me then i think im on the right track. but just everthing went BOOMMM and i didnt know what to do

*hugs hugs hugs* I have huge troubles when everything attacks at once

loads of hugs, hope all is going well