[themoreloving1]

I have to move in the next few months for work. I will be glad to move. However, I am not sure which of the job opportunities I should choose. My company gives me several locations and I get to give my preferences. I am all stressed out about it and I cannot make a decision. None of the places are ideal, of course. I am worried about the things that come with moving, too.

In the end, the move will be good for my depression. I have to believe that.

I hate making these decisions. I don't want to worry about this. But it won't get out of my head!!!!

[nightbird]

I wish I had your choices once upon a time...

Hey, write a list.

On one side, put the best things about the locations that YOU would benefit by.

On the other side, write the things that would make you feel unhappy (you think now) in such a place.

So, pros and cons.

Pick the place that you will thrive in, if possible, and learn new things.

Take a night or two and dream about it.

Ask your mind, and your emotions, before you go to sleep each night...
to show you what is good about the areas you go to sleep with in your mind.

Our inner self, and the dialog we have within ~ whether it be through dreams, day-dreams, or silent meditations, or prayerful considerations... usually are soooo right when we trust ourselves and listen to that quiet, inner voice.

Best of luck to you ... Sounds wonderful .... tell us more ...

Pece and encouragement,
night

[madisgram]

uh, i was going to write down the list suggestion but i just read nightbird's post. that should help you make a wise decision based on what you know. good luck on the moving...i'm doing the same...it is stressful but what works for me is to try to see the progress i'm making rather than the mess i'm creating packing....
not to discourage your thinking but you may take the depression with you...so be prepared and if possible see a therapist when you move. many reasons for depression stem from false beliefs we have. the T can help you work thru those and establish some positive thinking to replace those "old tapes". hope you will keep us posted.

[themoreloving1]

Nightbird,
I know I wrote a response to your comments and I don't know why it didn't appear...hmmm...


I made a sheet in Excel - and I did a complete decision matrix. I assigned values of importance to certain qualities, ie good climate. I also assessed each location's set of these qualities, "how is the climate in place X"?

It gave me a top place, and the other places in order...the logical choices I've already known.

But here's the deal...I want to go to the familiar place. It's the one that whispers at me. I remember it. But the job is more demanding, the hours worse, the boss and colleagues not as good. The place I wouldn't expect to thrive.

Maybe I'm chicken? Afraid to get burned in a new location?