Not a good time to be sad

Now, to get to my real post. I'm too sad to write a bunch right now so I'm gonna keep it short and add to it as we continue talking. I have Asperger's Syndrome, which means I'm a social failure most of the time. For some people, me included, it gets worse in early adulthood, I guess because life is changing and all that.

Anyway, I'm at the point where I'm so depressed and messed up that I can't function normally. I can't get my work done. Not because I'm not intelligent enough or anything like that, but because my emotions get in the way of every other aspect of my life.

And what I meant by the title of this thread, is that even though I obviously don't want any of this to happen to me, if it has to, why now? What I do in early adulthood shapes how the rest of my life will go... and I'm limited in my success right now because I feel terrible mentally all the time.

Assuming that I'm required by destiny or whatever, to go through the worst of this depression at some point in my life, I wish it was not now.

I'm tired of failing socially, I'm tired of being unhappy, and I'm tired of life in general.

Is it ever a "good time" to be sad? I'm sorry things are like this now for you, but... cheer up! It gets better from here, it really does. Socially, all it really takes is one good friend you can truly count on to be there for you. You'll find it

Unfortunately, early adulthood is the time that depression tends to hit hardest. The good news is it only gets better. I don't know how early you're talking, but high school tends to be the most difficult social period of life. Once you get past it, you not only have a chance to redefine yourself, but you hit a crowd of people who also want nothing more than to find new people and redefine themselves as well.

Just one last thing... it's never too late! There's such a time limit put on us by our parents and by society, that we feel like everything has to be done in such a short timespan. Preschool, elementary, secondary, then four years of college bringing up the prospect of grad school. WAY too much, if you ask me. There's really no rush. Take your time, do what you need to do, and try to preserve some of your sanity with it!

Always around to talk if you need, and good luck with everything!

~TheDeliciousDish

PS: My brother has Asperger's, and I believe I have a *small* touch of it too, so I do understand where you're coming from. Let's just say I'm no social butterfly xD

u didn't mention if you have a therapist you see regularly. i found that learning to accept my mental conditions and how i coped with things were immensely helped having a T. it sped up my progress, gave me tools for life, and how i perceived life changed.
you stated that you wish you didn't have to go thru the worse of this depression right now. i am sure in time you may realize that no time is convenient for depression if one has it. it's how we deal with the depression that makes the difference.
keep us posted on how u are doing and if you don't have a t can u get one? i feel it would help you, as it did me.

Alright, let me try to address everyone's questions here and then whine a bit more. Oh and first, thanks for responding.

TheDeliciousDish, no, there is never a good time to be sad. I guess I meant that relatively. I would rather go into depression later in life when things were more stable in the long term. Like, after I have a career and a family and all that. Doesn't sound like a great idea, but at least my depression wouldn't so drastically affect my future. I figure the more foundation you've already set down, the harder it is to lose it all and mess up.

Me, I'm a young adult, and I think it's a bad time to feel like this. I made great grades in high school and got a scholarship to one of the top universities in the country, and I'm considered by most to be a genius, whatever that means (I don't believe in those kinds of labels). I've always had social troubles, but I was able to hide behind my brain and my accomplishments better when I lived at home than I am now. I always masked my feelings well, and now I can't do that anymore.

What I was referring to as not being a good time to be sad, is this time that I'm supposed to be shaping my future. If I do well now, I'll live well later. If I don't do well now, I won't have a good life ahead of me. My current state doesn't allow me to live up to my full potential, so it's always haunting me that I could have been someone different had I not fallen into this pit of depression. I don't mean to brag, but I have great cognitive abilities, and I think if someone had them to the degree I do, without the depression and Asperger's syndrome and plethora of psychological issues, they could do much better in life than I will be able to now. That's why I thought it would have been better, if this depression was my destiny, for it to come after I'd laid the foundation for my life.

Madisgram, I have not been going to my therapist lately. I have trouble connecting to people and feel very uncomfortable talking to random professionals about my personal issues.