[Kiya]

We just had to write a rather personal paper in grad school... the prof is a PsyD and was teaching justice, leadership, forgiveness. Last paper i'd gotten a point less for not talking about how I personally had asked someone to forgive me. Which stung - how can i ask that of my fam when they are the perps who hurt me?!?! Anyway, i wrote about having DID, it's difficulties, my daily struggles in reference to leadership, and how l learned that it is myself i need to forgive mostly. Anyway, her comments were very supportive and enlightening....

"Kiya, having a dissociative Identity disorder is something you have been diagnosed with – something you live with and struggle with, but it doesn’t define your worth as a human being., anymore than someone who has migraines, or diabetes.
"Fathers don’t treat their children in this way – regardless of how frustrated they feel. Forgiveness does not mean you have to reconcile with your offender.
"You are hardest upon yourself – be generous of spirit with yourself and the other pieces will begin to slowly fit together."

Maybe it her comments to me will help others here

[jeNeTeConnaisPas]

I think those were wonderful things for her to say.

my best friend did her senior thesis in highschool about DID, and we did a video tape recorded interview with me to bring into class. she got a good grade i think. her classmates were interested by it.

at her grad ceremony and party i think they recognised me.. but it wasnt awkward or anything.

losing thought- take care, lol -Edgar

[DLHsSystm]

What a lovely and supportive comment. I like that prof. even though I never met him/her. Their comments helped me today.

Deb51/Dee

[Typo]

ty for sharing Kiya the one that hits me the hardest and helps me a lot is the one about forgiving doesn't mean reconciling with the offender, that really rings a bell right now thank you so much for sharing.

Love you big sis
((((((((Kiyacat))))))))))

from lilfish
Sparrow

[Miracle1986]

The part that spoke the loudest to me was: a dissociative Identity disorder is something you have been diagnosed with – something you live with and struggle with, but it doesn’t define your worth as a human being., anymore than someone who has migraines, or diabetes. Thanks for sharing Kiya!!!

[Jewels]

your prof is very wise indeed...our diagnosis never defines who we are and only indicates a need in our life that we used to help us get through life...thank you for such wise and yet tender words...

abbi of jewels

[turquoisesea]

Thank you so much for sharing. The Prof sounds truly amazing

[Kiya]

Thanks hun,
Even tho they all (obviously) helped me, this one also hit me the most because the paper objective for the class was on forgiveness and i had such a hard time with that (in regards to my abuse history). So to get that from this prof (who is also a T) that forgiveness doesn't mean reconciling with the offenfer is HUGE and powerful for me. It justified the confusion and frustrations I had had with the course and affirmed that I am good - somehow. That I am still on firm ground and not "condemned" by my actions.
ok... long rant over
hugs

Originally Posted by Silversparrow

ty for sharing Kiya the one that hits me the hardest and helps me a lot is the one about forgiving doesn't mean reconciling with the offender, that really rings a bell right now thank you so much for sharing.

Love you big sis
((((((((Kiyacat))))))))))

from lilfish
Sparrow

[Kiya]

Yes - at some point in the paper-writing process i had an anxiety attack that coincided with a terrible sense of worthlessness and so, her words were a balm to my mind that was why it felt so important to share them in this DD forum - so others could also apply the balm - from a caring prof and good T.

Originally Posted by Manda86

The part that spoke the loudest to me was: a dissociative Identity disorder is something you have been diagnosed with – something you live with and struggle with, but it doesn’t define your worth as a human being., anymore than someone who has migraines, or diabetes. Thanks for sharing Kiya!!!

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Kiya

We just had to write a rather personal paper in grad school... the prof is a PsyD and was teaching justice, leadership, forgiveness. Last paper i'd gotten a point less for not talking about how I personally had asked someone to forgive me. Which stung - how can i ask that of my fam when they are the perps who hurt me?!?! Anyway, i wrote about having DID, it's difficulties, my daily struggles in reference to leadership, and how l learned that it is myself i need to forgive mostly. Anyway, her comments were very supportive and enlightening....

"Kiya, having a dissociative Identity disorder is something you have been diagnosed with – something you live with and struggle with, but it doesn’t define your worth as a human being., anymore than someone who has migraines, or diabetes.
"Fathers don’t treat their children in this way – regardless of how frustrated they feel. Forgiveness does not mean you have to reconcile with your offender.
"You are hardest upon yourself – be generous of spirit with yourself and the other pieces will begin to slowly fit together."

Maybe it her comments to me will help others here

thanks I love how she worded that.