[Silverband]

<font color="blue"> </font> Any suggestions on how I can better communicate with my supportive girlfriend in regards to how I have hurt her over the years b/c of my dissociative states? I'm having a really hard time right now trying to being supportive to her in regards to how she feels b/c of my actions! HELP Please!

~ Kendra ~

[Mahali]

Kendra,

I guess I would try and explain every aspect of the DID as much as I could to my friend. It is very hard to explain sometimes so that others can understand.

I guess I wonder if it was "you" who hurt her or was it an alter who said things? Was it from your frustration? There is a lot of this with DID and I am not trying to blame or point a finger in anyway. I just wonder if it was an alter... then can you get her to understand that it wasn't you who hurt her?

If she was hurt because of your mood swings (which come with the territory btw) then maybe there is someway you can explain this.

I don't know how much you want to disclose to her.

I am sorry if I have asked more questions than answered. I guess my answer would depend on the way your friend was hurt.

You can feel free to pm and I will try to help if you would like.

Take care.

place

[RhysMadison]

If she knows you are diss. & cares for you, then by all means share w/ her the info on this disorder. Knowledge is power. I've hurt a lot of people in my life as well, even though "I" didn't do it. To those who matter, they know that it wasn't me. They loved me enough to forgive me.
Love,
RhysMadison

[Silverband]

Thanks for your responses! My GF knows that I have DID and is very supportive as well as researching about it! To a point she sorda understand that it wasn't "me" who hurt her! But that still doesn't take away her pain! Living with DID is incredibly hard for me right now and I'm having a hard time coping and breathing everyday b/c of it!
~ Kendra ~

[Mahali]

Kendra,

No, the fact that it was not you who hurt her will not take away the pain. If she can understand this though it may help in her being able to heal from it.

It also may help in her being supportive of you. It sounds like she is sticking with you and these people are incredibly rare.

DID is a source of confusion and hard times. This is understandable. It does get better as you can learn ways to cope with it. Always remember that it does get better. I know how depressing and over whelming it can be. But there are bright moments to it.

Stay safe and stay strong.

Take care.

place

[Silverband]

Place, you are to kind! By chance do you live in Canada? LOL I say this because I need to be around people who are supportive of one another and who know what I'm going through and feeling! H. is VERY supportive of me and she is trying to understand more as each day passes.... as am I! BUT it is a hard struggle for both of us! I will try to stay strong and when I'm feeling down I'll make sure I get on here and bug you! hehe j/k

~Kendra ~

[Mahali]

Kendra,

Bug away. No problem. I will be of any and all support I can. I wish I could offer more. I know how difficult it is.

I do not live in Canada though.

I am here when you need or want to talk. You can get through this.

Take care.

place

[Silverband]

Thanks so much Place You are a very kind person! I'll speak to you again tomorrow probably! I should probably get some sleep? zzzzz

~ Kendra ~