[krazy_phoenix]

Hello you wonderful insightful people you,
Wondering if you could shed a bit of your wonderful insight onto my query regarding littles. It seems that all the posters on here have littles in their systems. I don't. I mean, there is one whose name we do not speak, who we have not met but all kind of know is there, but that is all. I consider this one to be the 'inner child'. We have several who have come forward to be 'listed' and current count is 16, 15 of us share co-con. Other than two teens, the rest are adult. But there are others still 'in the shadows' and where, I assume, those responsible for me loosing time are. I would love to hear how you met your littles, and were they easy to meet, and have around.
Thank you for your help, and hope you are all having a good day!
kp

[Miracle1986]

When I first met my littles I thought they were my "inner child" too, but shortly after I realized that sometimes I had desires of a child or I sometimes heard myself talking like a child.

For me, having littles is very much like having children in real life. They have days when it is easier to be around them than other days. It takes patience and love.

[writingwithink]

Originally Posted by krazy_phoenix

I mean, there is one whose name we do not speak, who we have not met but all kind of know is there, but that is all. I consider this one to be the 'inner child'. We have several who have come forward to be 'listed'...kp

This is the same situation with me. There is one that has always been there, is named, and no one (including me) speaks of. What I do know is that she has been blamed for many of the bad things that have happened in our iife. There have also been others who have "come forward," but I do my best to ignore them. They were rather loud last week, though. There has been a "mother" that takes care of them, but I don't pay any attention to them. Sometimes, though, there are these deep feelings that rise to the top and present in my every-day life that I usually will attribute to them.

[anderson]

The small ones can be quite interesting. We wear a chain with an object that we can suck on for when they are out cause they want a pacifier. It also helps calm down the others as well! but the truth is they all come out on their own good time. Most of our did not come out until they known it was safe or someone was near to keep us safe. We encourage parts to come out by providing things that age group would like to do. For the longest time the night time was the loudest with the small ones. our bed at the time was majority stuff toys Each one to represent an adult that made them feel safe. But we also did coloring time and play time with kids stuff. I know for a fact that I started to play then one of the younger ones would take over lots of time. by giving safe time with other children also helped them to know that we were no longer in kansas so to speak. But this has to be done safely not only for you and your parts but for the children that you are with. The one thing that is true for both inner and otter children they learn the best from their own age group.That is why we did child care for so long. The kids loved it and we could act like kids and the other adult just thought we just be playing most of the time. Good luck!

[possum220]

I didn't think I had littlies. I did have ones that didnt speak at all. It was a long time into therapy b4 they began to speak. And they mostly speak to me..... so far.

Just be patient...... If they are there, they will come out.

[krazy_phoenix]

Thank you all for your responses. I will be patient, and have taken on all your comments. I will let you know how I go in the future.
Thanks again,
kp

[jennaorgana]

i don't have DID at all, but i wanted to say how cool it is that you are all so open and honest. i once had someone with DID in my DBT class... she had a little. she sometimes came to group dressed like a young girl and she loved candy, though when she was in her "host" stage (eek, i don't know if i am saying this right!) she HATED anything sugary. even a birthday cake i once baked her.

anyways, i hope you figure out everything you want to