[Rhiannonsmoon]

Help pelase,

I just got told I need a fontal lobotomy, this is from Megan a 15 yr old who isn't the happiest of people; she is always talking and always interfering with my "in the moment" thoughts and actions, she seems to delight in getting through and claps her hands in glee that she's made me respond to her.

I haven't started any therapy yet but I saw the doctor who said she would set it up for me, how do I stop the arguing between now and then (because Megan argues even when she's the only one talking). I was offered medication but I take such a delicate balance now I don't want to upset it. Would I be better to attempt to take it? I'm constantly telling one or the other to be silent or arguing (as I posted about some time ago), about what I'm going to eat or watch on TV or which perfume I'm going to use etc

What is the next step? what do I expect? I have the clinical response but clinical is not something the doctor can feel and only has a partial understanding of; I appreciate any help

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

Help pelase,

I just got told I need a fontal lobotomy, this is from Megan a 15 yr old who isn't the happiest of people; she is always talking and always interfering with my "in the moment" thoughts and actions, she seems to delight in getting through and claps her hands in glee that she's made me respond to her.

I haven't started any therapy yet but I saw the doctor who said she would set it up for me, how do I stop the arguing between now and then (because Megan argues even when she's the only one talking). I was offered medication but I take such a delicate balance now I don't want to upset it. Would I be better to attempt to take it? I'm constantly telling one or the other to be silent or arguing (as I posted about some time ago), about what I'm going to eat or watch on TV or which perfume I'm going to use etc

What is the next step? what do I expect? I have the clinical response but clinical is not something the doctor can feel and only has a partial understanding of; I appreciate any help

you can try telling your alter megan that in most places lobotomies were discontinued in the 1960's your doctors can tell you if they are still done in your area and how its done then you and megan and your doctors can all talk about the pros and cons and decide whats best for you all.

Don't worry...no one does that any more. NO doctor would ever suggest that. Please take good care and ask Megan to simmer down.

Oh and journal like crazy....Write any and all of your collective thoughts.

[wanttoheal]

Yeah, Journaling is a great way to get things out of your head. I am amazed sometimes at what gets written down here aware and unaware. It's helped me immensely to figure things out.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Thanks, Calista+12, I didn't think it was a literal thing I felt that it was just a stir up thing to have a go at me. My request wasn't for information on what a lobotomy is amandalouise I know what one is; I wanted help in simmering her down....how to simmer her down and not have her interfering into my thoughts as I am trying to think. I've had a headache for weeks now just a slow dull ache, not one I've really had before. But I have to go for another consult with neuro I'll let them take care of that.

Thanks for the replies

[Nupoet64]

Rhiannonsmoon, maybe telling Meagen that the lobotomy would get rid of her too might chill her out, but knowing teens, it could set her off...
GL and many hugs...

[anderson]

((((( Rhiannonsmoon )))))
Yes please journal alot that is what we do we write so much at night now it is the only way it seems to get some peace with in it get the stuff out of our head into the black and white. It lets us see if we can come up with a different way of doing it but most of all it is a way for us to say to each other we believe in you and your fears are not ungrounded. Teens act out the loudest when they are afriad and do not know what is going to happen.
Our littles where ans are so scared of being hurt again that we have been in the swinging door syndrom. Their fear is making it very hard on us to stay in one persona. But we do have hope that we will find safety so that those with in with not be in such fear of repeat abuse.
Maybe asking her why she is feeling the way she is or at least ask her to journal what is bothering her on the inside may help take the pressure of a new exsperance offen her.
Just take it day by day and know that we to are traveling this road even though we may be far apart.

[Perna]

I would smile at Megan and "agree", say "I sure need something!" just to let her know you're listening and then she'll be satisfied and might not interrupt as much?

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Yes perna that is a good idea, I do know she wants attention and tries many ways to get it; she aslo is a fighter & comes out to protect some times.

Thanks to everyone