[carinacan]

u see when i was little i spent alot of time in the closet....it felt safe there and i was alone...no 1 messed with me and sometimes thay would forget i was there. then mom said it was not healthy and started locking all the closet doors so i had to stay out....know i'm to big for that stuff so i just try to stay out of the way alot...makes mom mad becouse she says i need to help out more bla..bla...so on and no matter where i go she findes me.......so i wish i could just dissapire to the closet agian

[(JD)]

Having to continue to live in a non-supportive household is tough indeed. I'm sorry you don't currently have a safe place, but that shouldn't keep you from trying to make one! Since you already have a history (reputation?) for liking the closet, can you create a space in yours again? One is never too big to do good self care, and if that's what works for you, go for it.

[justdontknow]

I seriously thought I was the only one who did this. I used to spend lots of time in my closet because it felt safe and I felt closed in and that nothing would harm me. I do agree that it is not the healthiest thing to do, but sometimes it is the only thing I can think of that isn't SIB. I have been slowly cutting out my closet time and I have been struggling. I know how you feel, Carinacan. The more I stay out of there, the more I want back in. I just wanted you to know (and I am also glad to know) that you are not alone. I understand. It is hard to help out when you want to feel safe and you don't. I am not even sure if this makes any sense, but I just wanted to let you know, I know how you feel.

Cris

[Nupoet64]

(((((Carinacan)))))....I can relate. I loved the cabinets. I could hide from Mom in the cabinets. But I am too big for them now. So my Little Ones hide in a space between my bed and dresser....lol, it is bigger than the cabinet and my closets are too full. I am sorry your mom doesn't understand. That makes me very sad. Please help make yourself feel as safe as you can...oh, another place I love is under the bed....no one looks there. Especially for a grown body.
Many hugs and much support...

[carinacan]

Originally Posted by justdontknow

I seriously thought I was the only one who did this. I used to spend lots of time in my closet because it felt safe and I felt closed in and that nothing would harm me. I do agree that it is not the healthiest thing to do, but sometimes it is the only thing I can think of that isn't SIB. I have been slowly cutting out my closet time and I have been struggling. I know how you feel, Carinacan. The more I stay out of there, the more I want back in. I just wanted you to know (and I am also glad to know) that you are not alone. I understand. It is hard to help out when you want to feel safe and you don't. I am not even sure if this makes any sense, but I just wanted to let you know, I know how you feel.

Cris

thank you....

[Miracle1986]

I know it may sound silly and cliché, but have you tried to create a "safe place" in your mind?
I know it isn't the same as a real life safe place, but it could help.

[invisigirl]

I've spent my share of time in closets and under beds too.. when I was a teen and until I left my parents' house, I stayed in my room all the time. My mother always accused me of being snobby and anti-social because I didn't want to be out of my room with everyone else and wouldn't even keep the door open.

When life feels too overwhelming for me now, I still lock myself in my room. Sometimes I will crouch in a corner of the room on the other side of the bed away from the door.. or sometimes I lock myself in the bathroom downstairs - it's really tiny and feels a lot like a closet. But a lot of the time I still just want to go sit in a closet and hide.

There's nothing wrong with having a safe place to go to.

[anderson]

For us it has been a long time for us to have a true safe place. The hard part was learning to trust that it was safe and not just be conditional. When you find that it gaved us the same saf feeling like being in the closet. For us. May you find that safe place again in real life.