[darkpurplesecrets]

Today has been a long day trying to stay grounded and in the present. But it seems that sometimes when I am not aware others within are out and I guess I am wondering do they also need to stay grounded and if so how?

I realize that if I am grounded in myself and in the present then I am the one out. But at times it seems I can think I am here but am not. Not even really realizing it. Maybe my question is so far out there and makes no sense at all. But it is something I have been thinking about and wondering if there is any such thing as those within being grounded that would in turn help myself stay grounded.

I know that maybe there is no answer to this and that I am just asking a really dumb thing. I feel that at times those within slip out without me even being aware especially when there are memories and in real life triggers everywhere. When threats come at times and when words can be said that seem to send myself within looking for shelter and others seem to slip out to take over or even hearing a certain word can bring them forward.

If anyone has an answer or idea to this could you share for I am really wondering and sometimes feeling lost in it all.

dps

[Crew]

The answers I have for you will lead you to read that no, your not way off track and that we feel your questions are not dumb or any other negative word we could all attach to the word "grounding." However, being dissociaitve we all have to realize that we all have everything we need to heal because we had all that we needed to survive.

In our opinion darkpurplesecrets, these are great questions! Although the answers could and will vary as though we are all the same but yet so totally different. I think, thinking about these questions you posed for any of us at Psych Central can think about and possibly could relate to many as I can also can relate.

I know for a long time we switched and switched and switched so for us we were more grounded inside then when we were "out, running the body." Just my thinking and I too may be out there in my thinking as well but I think in my system we have to be grounded inside in order to "pop out" if there is a job that needs to be doing rather it be a protector or needing a kid or needing a doctor, inside we have to know if abuse is still happening and for us it actually is. For those that don't have to deal with the abuse again and again then I am not sure for them.

I hope this helps dps....

Please be careful in these holiday months, I don't know if you have problems but I can tell you we do, so if yours is anything like ours

BE CAREFUL!
Crew

[Gus1234U]

aah Dear Purple,, one believes that someone is communicating with all the others, somehow, and skills can be shared. you are advancing like the army of grace~! be well,, feel the love,, ****O,O**** (we see yous) Gus

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by darkpurplesecrets

Today has been a long day trying to stay grounded and in the present. But it seems that sometimes when I am not aware others within are out and I guess I am wondering do they also need to stay grounded and if so how?

I realize that if I am grounded in myself and in the present then I am the one out. But at times it seems I can think I am here but am not. Not even really realizing it. Maybe my question is so far out there and makes no sense at all. But it is something I have been thinking about and wondering if there is any such thing as those within being grounded that would in turn help myself stay grounded.

I know that maybe there is no answer to this and that I am just asking a really dumb thing. I feel that at times those within slip out without me even being aware especially when there are memories and in real life triggers everywhere. When threats come at times and when words can be said that seem to send myself within looking for shelter and others seem to slip out to take over or even hearing a certain word can bring them forward.

If anyone has an answer or idea to this could you share for I am really wondering and sometimes feeling lost in it all.

dps

none of my alters needed to remain grounded. I was the one with DID so I was the one that needed to take care of the problems as I became aware of them and that in its self took care of the problems the alters had so that they did not have to take over control of my body.

example being around men was one of my triggers that resulted in my dissociating into the alter that came out when ever I was around men. solution use grounding, breathing exercises when around men alleviated my anxiety and stress around me since I was taking care of me the resulting alter associated with this trigger did not take control. eventually that alter saw her job as protector against men was done so she merged with me and we became one whole person again working together for the whole of us.

Talk with your treatment people and they can help you find out the reason your alters are still taking control of the body, and they can help you work on those triggers so that they will no longer need to take control away from you.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by darkpurplesecrets

Today has been a long day trying to stay grounded and in the present. But it seems that sometimes when I am not aware others within are out and I guess I am wondering do they also need to stay grounded and if so how?

I realize that if I am grounded in myself and in the present then I am the one out. But at times it seems I can think I am here but am not. Not even really realizing it. Maybe my question is so far out there and makes no sense at all. But it is something I have been thinking about and wondering if there is any such thing as those within being grounded that would in turn help myself stay grounded.

I know that maybe there is no answer to this and that I am just asking a really dumb thing. I feel that at times those within slip out without me even being aware especially when there are memories and in real life triggers everywhere. When threats come at times and when words can be said that seem to send myself within looking for shelter and others seem to slip out to take over or even hearing a certain word can bring them forward.

If anyone has an answer or idea to this could you share for I am really wondering and sometimes feeling lost in it all.

dps

((((((((((((dps))))))))))))

We have had this happening too and it can be very confusing when one who is supposed to be within are actually without. We were thrown into chaos because of it. This is only insider we do not have shared memory with and no shared consciousness with

Thank you for this messsage because it validates things that have happened with us and validates that it is not imagination

Morgana

[Lillyleaf]

In my oppinion, that the ones inside should be grounded because sometimes there moods might affect yours, however that being said we must understand that like everyone grounds at diffrent rates and diffrent capabillity levals. This means that you can not exspect everyone inside to be able to ground. If you are able to stay grounded that will not only help you but alos the people inside. You have to understand that you work as a unit and have to talk and comunitcate to eachother and help eachother out in times of stress. Keep hanging in there. hope you do your best staying grounded... So in short my answer to your question is it might help you but not compleatly nessacary and not alway possible. I hope you are well ((hugs)))

[anderson]

Yes, DPS, those within need to learn to grounded to for those with us do react from the emotions of each other. It is hard but it doese get easer when the truma is dealt with.
Just seending you all safe thoughts and hugs from all of us to all of you

[darkpurplesecrets]

I guess my question was more center around the fact that one word can cause one to step out without my knowledge. Those that were programmed that I have no idea about. I am not sure if I am explaining it very well.

But I appreciate all of you for answering. It means a lot--so thank you.

dps

[Nupoet64]

((((DPS))))...Not stupid questions. Very deep and thought provoking questions. GOOD questions. I am sorry I fail to ahve any answers, but can relate to the feelings you expressed. Many safe hugs...

[brittfly]

I am sorry you are struggling so DPS... i c from the thought given in other messages... did not get to where your question lies. We r so much alike.. we have DID but each person system can be.. is.... so different. I wish i could help you with the answer you seek. I know for me... grounding need to take place with all my parts with wherever there memories go. We r coconcious and for us we don't lose time as we use to... parts still can fly out at a trigger... but it is less and less of an occurance. I believe every part needs to learn grounding... every part needs to see the present and memory as the past. it is a rough road dps... u seem to be strugglig so and i wish we could be of more help.

[Gus1234U]

sometimes those of us singletons who know you well and love you, can see that this is an odd side of you,,, as we become more aware of DID it becomes more apparent that this is a side of you, and aspect of you, that is not the YOU we are so well acquainted with. yet, still we are fond of you, because that is a part of you. all of you's are welcome to this one. {{{{{DPS}}}}}} (my deep, purple, secret friend). Gus

[DancingAlone]

first dear dps, please know i haven't been officially dx'd with DID, the wheels are grinding slowly with new pdoc in getting this confirmed by a therapist. the "knowing" of what is within comes slow too.

but in my own awareness of depersonalization, derealization, "i" seem to be here but not really. whoever is leading this body is learning the grounding now, and somehow passing it along within? (and oh thank you for this dear dps, and your support outlines that are my "bible" now in trying to finally heal). some days though, all are not in unison and then much triggering, hurt and pain and fear take over until "i" am back to deal, the strong one.

"i" don't know if am lost forever, just a distant memory, or really here. it's scary. don't know if i understood you correctly, but know that i am hearing you and wishing you all the best as you struggle to heal.

always,

wishing you peace within, sent on the wings of a dove