[Catlovers141]

I have found suggestions for how to help and heal parts/alters online, but they seem to be more doable for people with DID whose parts can come out and take control of the body so they can play and have their own time. But I have DDNOS, and I can hear my parts but they can't really have their own "body time."

I have tried self-care, hoping the effects might "trickle down" and help them as well, but this doesn't seem to work as well as I hoped it would.

Anyone have any ideas on how to help parts? I have a little one who feels scared and sad a lot. She spends a lot of time crying and I would really like to help that one especially.

Thanks!

[sabby]

I'm going to assume that you can communicate with your parts in some way. If this is the case, would they be able to hear music or see/hear a movie? Would they hear you reading them a story or singing to them?

How about asking her what she would like or need from you to feel safer and more secure? Maybe your soothing voice is all she needs to hear to help her.

Those are the only ideas I have come up with so far. If I'm off base here, please let me know.

Wishing you well!


sabby

[lizardlady]

How about asking the parts what they want or need?

For the scared little one... it helped us when I would talk to my Little One and tell her I'd take care of her and keep us safe.

[Crew]

Hey along with asking for what they need, maybe going and actually getting a non expensive soft bear or maybe a soft blanket...maybe make a box that is pretty and things you give to you little ones. Something there very own maybe.
I know when things were really hard with my parts knowing I had something all my own really helped and knowing someone inside gave it to me meant even more. I used to be one of the parts that needed help, now I get to be the one helping my inside parts too. Way to go for you getting to know your parts.
Good Luck and if you ever need to talk your welcome to PM me

your friend, Crew

[Irine]

What helped me get closer to parts was the book: "The Artists Way" by Juliya Cameron

It is good not only for artists but helps rise AWARENESS...one of the main things we, with DD lack

[aikanae]

I've got parts that developed to be functional. The abused parts don't come out much. This can be frustrating since it's harder to help them. Everyone has been different. Sometimes getting a "stuffie" they can hold has helped. Sometimes they will pull pictures out of a magazine which I can paste into a collage. Sometimes non-dominate hand writting or drawing works. Sometimes getting in a meditative mood and listening or holding them works. There were a couple that asked me not to look at what they did in the journal until we went to the therapist's office too. Sometimes just snuggling under a pile of blankets and watching a movie is good too (pick movies carefully). But I think your instinct to help them is a very good start.

Just because parts don't come out doesn't make it harder or easier. The challenges are the same.

[songbird and daisy]

We are learning "cooperative coexistence" but we still have parts that don't communicate for various reasons. I use a communication log so all the parts can talk to each other or say what they need to say because we are still all seperate, except one, who helps alot. I think there are a lot of good suggestions already written and many who are in different stages of DID. I know you will eventually find what works for you eventhough it may not seem like it now. I know I felt that way and things are very different (in a good way), now.

[Hunny]

Catlovers,

I am not sure you are still looking for ideas.

I am in somewhat of a similar situation to you, in that there is and isn't body time for each one and there is a really little fearful one that cries on occasion, even today.

It was when I really turned to her (in a manner of speaking) today and said inwardly that I hear her. She seemed unconsolable until I reassured her (again inwardly) that I would not make her take on doing what 'I' the adult was supposed to do (in this case be brave/courageous and strong). She did want a hug and comfort then too. It was rather hard to do but I had brought a pink dragon (handsize) stuffy with me, so that helped, somewhat.

It seems acknowledgment of her is important and will continue to be for sometime to come.

All the best to you.

PS is that really songbird and daisy, there?

[siwedge]

Hi, I'm new here

Not ready to post any more yet, but this is a lovely thread to read.

[Catlovers141]

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to thank you all for your replies. I have read all of them and just haven't replied. My friend died... almost a month ago now, and I have been having a hard time with it. But I do appreciate all your suggestions, and welcome to the groups, siwedge!

[Omers]

Sorry to hear about your friend. My littles like blankies a lot. They also like "shinies"... we have a rather large semiprecious stone sphere collection. Mr Bubble and a warm bath is usually brings a smile. I also like to collect tidbits and pictures from people they like. They have a special place with all sorts of special little things... The reassuring note T sent before our first session, Massage Ts business card, printed out emails.