WHY CAN'T I TALK TOO!!!!!

Mr. ***** said I couldn't talk to him last week. He wanted to talk to Songbird. He said he needed to talk to her so he could help us

Just kind of feel left out, abandonded, not wanted. I guess I'll just stay in my pretend place again. I was mad all week Mad I tell you Mad!

I hid away from everyone because I don't like to be mad and nobody wanted me anyway. POOH POOH on mean people.

I know Mr. ***** isn't mean. He's been really nice to me. I just felt it was mean. I wanted to talk too. Pooh Pooh

Snowbird

hi hun! Its mandie.

yeah, I know how that feels. Sometimes the same thing happens with me and i feel the same way too!

Maybe you could write down everything you want to say and give it to him.

Sometimes I do that and I leave it behind.

Or maybe you could record it on a tape?

That way he'd know what you were thinking and still be able to talk to Songbird.

And when it is your turn to speak, you'll remember everything you wanted to say and he'd already be caught up.

Just a thought.

It is frustrating when you dont get a turn. I agree with petunia, write it down and tell all next time.

((((((((((((SongBird)))))))))))

Its just the way therapists work with DID's. They dont work specifically with Momory pieces (Alters). they have learned that focusing the work only on the memories does no good when the person doesn't have or isn't taught the coping skills to handle the recalling of memories. So when memory pieces pop up, come out and so on therapists have to by their mental health training and USA mental health laws and ethics focus not totally on the piece of memory (Alter) that is coming through but to work with the person as a whole to teach them to how to remain aware and fully experience the memorys for their self instead of the therapist telling the person after they are aware - this is what I found out while you were gone.

Years ago there were alot of perpetrators that were sent to prison and then had to be let free because the therapist had not let the client experience and tell them fully that memory, instead the therapist told the person "this, this and this happened to you and now even though you don't remember it you told me about it or rather your alter told me about it"

. So the perpetrators were let free because of false memory syndrom - not a real memory but one that could possibly have been created by the therapist or to please the therapist.

So now there are laws and ethics put in place to prevent false memories from being created by the therapist or the client to please the therapist because the therapist likes the working with alters and whatever other reasons there are for people to create or pretend that they have been abused or are DID.

Now the therapy profession has no choice they have to work with the person who has been diagnosed with DID as alters are memories and the work with that person has to be working on the co conscious way - that is the person has to experience the memory therself.

This way those that are really DID get the correct treatment needed to heal from DID and those that are not DID are not rewarded for pretending they are DID. Those that are DID work the program those that are not either give up pretending with that therapist because they gain no enjoyment and or attention by pretending or they quit therapy with that therapist and find another one to see if that new therapist will give thier DID routine attention that they want.

In the therapy profession the bottom line is that Alters are just the person acting out a memory that has been separated and stored in their unconscious level of thinking and cannot act or do anything that is not contained in that piece of memory. So when the therapist has the info they need to help the person diagnosed with DID they sometimes try to get the person diagnosed with DID to focus back on the here and now instead of the memory they are experiencing or is rerunning. DID is not a fun disorder of playing games and so on with the therapist so therapists don't treat it as fun by giving the "alters" alot of attention. Just the way it is.

Thats what therapy work for DID is - working with the diagnosed person as a whole person teaching them coping skills of staying grounded, locating triggers, remembering the memorys and not focusing on the separated memories (alters) as separate people.

Reading my blog will tell you what to expect from therapy for DID. Take care

(((((((((( Snowbird ))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry that happened. The idea of writing down what you want to say is wonderful. I hope you try it.

Please talk to us anytime. All of us are here for you.

Hugs,

Jan

Hi Snowbird - you can talk to us anytime you want to - ok??? We are great listeners and would love to hear all the things you have to say.

Hi Rainbowzz,

I thought I was the only one. What do you do when that happens?

Snowbird

Hi Petunia,

That is a good idea. I have a journal and write in that. Maybe I will write a letter to him and give it to him on Wednesday.

Sometimes I get nervous when I talk to him, so writing things down is good.

I like your puffy cheeks

Snowbird

Allthe girls,

I like your dolls.I don't have one. I don't get anything but that's okay.

Snowbird

Hi Jan,

I didn't know so many people knew me. No one ever talks to me so this is really nice. I like Petunia's idea of writing things down. I like to write.

Bad thing happened this morning but I can't talk about it. I wrote in my journal.

Nice to meet you

Snowbird

Hi Stormgirl,

I like to talk to you. You make me feel better, just like most of the others. People usually ignore me, but not people here. There are nice people here.

Snowbird

Hi Snowbird. I think writing is a wonderful idea. Just wanted to say hi.

(((safe hugs to all)))

Snowbird always remember you can say anything you need to here cuz we feel things like you and we can understand, writing is good too
Angie

yup I agree.

Im glad we know about you If I didnt know about you, then I wouldnt get to talk to you, and i like talking to you

Mandie

((((((( Snowbird )))))))))

It's very, very nice to meet you at last!

You can talk to me anytime.

Nice safe hugs,

Jan

Just wanted to say hi! ((((((((((((((( Snowbird ))))))))))))))))

Hi fuzzy white bear

I remember you from my introduction post. I like your picture.

I'm still sad. I wish I could talk to Mr. *****. He always makes me feel better.

Things are just so confusing right now. I don't understand.

Snowbird

Hi Venus,

I don't think I know you but hi

It was nice of you to say hello to me. I am a nice person, just sad and lonely. But it's okay. I'm used to being sad and lonely. I guess it's what is ment to be.

Snowbird

Hi Angie,

It's been a long time since I've talked to you and it's nice.

I am still a little afraid to say anything I want. It's so public. I know you and my other friends will understand. It is confusing. I'm confused. Too many different things surround me. I'm just going with the flow for now until I can talk to Mr. *****. He said I can write him a letter any time but I don't want to bother him. He's very nice. He's a teacher, kind of. That's what he says. I like teachers. They have always been nice to me.

Do you have teachers?

Snowbird

Hello Jan,

Are you a big person? Like a teacher? You seem very nice. I like to talk to people but I'm afraid people won't like me because I have a bad secret. And people hurt me. They pretend to be my friend and then say things that hurt me. Or do bad things.

Snowbird

Hi fuzzy!

How are you? I'm sad, but I'm used to it. It's just a state of living, I guess.

Snowbird

aww snowbird.

It will get better with time though, I promise!

Puffy Cheeks

Snowbird