My t wants to do play therapy

I do not tell him what to do. He tells me. I am here to take care of the others I am not the original. We all work together to keep everyone safe. There are some in the world but each has their own function to keep everything looking "normal". I look after the other. The ones who have one purpose or hold one memory or emotion. The angry one who says no has one purpose and that is to protect us. Everyone. There is someone who can tell him to behave but it is not me. He does not ask me for permission to do anything. He has to work through his fear and understand that we won't ever go back but we need to remember to go forward. I do talk to him. I know he hears me. He will make comments about what I am trying to explain to him but he does not have a conversation with me. Or with anyone that I know of. There is another angry one who functions in the world and is able to argue without exploding. He is not getting involved. I don't know what that means. All the responses I have been getting are making him see there is a reason for remembering. I know when I read, he is aware of what I am reading just as he is aware of what I am thinking. He knows I don't want to hurt him. He just isn't ready to go back in thought. I think I have to find a way for him to trust us enough to let us experience the pain of the past so we can let it go. I want to let it go. And I am afraid but I am but not enough to stay in the dark. Anger is strength that will hold us up through the pain. I need him to know that. I need him to believe that.

It sounds like he has done a very good job protecting the system. Seeing parts struggle and in pain from remembering must be very hard for him. I think just keep doing what you are doing. Baby steps. Maybe as he sees healing he will relax a bit.

We will sit with you. It is OK.

Healinghearts

Yes, thanks. I think you are right he just needs to go slow. We have all been this way for a long time. I understand that it will also take time to heal.

It is good that you are doing such a good job with all the parts. You are remarkable!

HH

The part that said not to be bothered by him, we are are glad you like to play made us feel very happy. Thank you for saying that