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May 11, 2013, 11:26 AM
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I'm a bit confused if it's just me or if it's someone else, so I thought that I could write about it here to see if you have any thoughts on this.
I suspect that I'm feeling another alter's feelings - a little one (8, 10-ish?). The thing is, there are situations where I feel like I shouldn't react/feel the way I do (I'm in my later teens myself). Here are two examples, it happened a few weeks ago: I was in a store with a family member. I found this children's book and I got really excited, I liked it very much. I don't know if it's me, but "I" sometimes love these childish things... walking in a store I randomly find something that I love. Today, I found a coloring book for kids, and it was just lovely. I can't say for sure that "I" am feeling this way, or if it's someone on the inside. I don't feel like me, like, really me (teen-me) would enjoy a coloring book, yet I just had to buy it? I'm thinking that I can use it as a way of calming myself/others inside of me down, a way of distracting, you know. It just confuses me a little - I don't really get why I like these things so much? I mean, people in my age wouldn't jump up and down seeing a children's book (it was special though, those pictures were so nice-looking!) or a coloring book (that one was so cute!). Could it be that I'm just childish or could it be that I'm somehow feeling the feelings of another, little, alter? As far as I know, I don't have a kid alter. It could be, not impossible, but I haven't got the feeling of having one in the same way as I've got with my persecutor or cognitive alter... but if I have a kid alter I can understand why it has been needed (I've blocked out plenty of time from the past, there are many parts in the past that are blurry or that are gone for me, that I can't remember). Thanks for reading. Any thoughts on this that you'd like to share? I'm happy for any reply. ~ The host
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We are multiple - we are different people who share one body. The host of our system is a teen. Other than that, there are four of us. ~ Down the rabbit hole & co |
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May 11, 2013, 05:47 PM
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the first one is completely normal...everyone has times when they feel, react like a child..this in psychology terms is called the child with in. the second one is feeling like a child because of feeling like an alter/sharing the alters emotions, dissociated into an alter. the distinction between the two here where I am is in the first one a person feels like they are their self but they feel like they did when they were a child...liking the same things they did when they were a child, feel like throwing a temper tantrum like a child would, Jump for joy type exciting feelings like a child... in the second the emotion is perceived to be someone elses emotions not their own....example sunny is happy, rainy is sad, red is angry....when I did on rare occasions feel their emotions it didnt feel like...I was happy...I was sad,....I was angry....it was very clearly thought of as Sunnys happiness, Rainys sadness and Red's anger... another way to know the diffrerence is write out/journal and then reread what you have wrote...if its in the ...I...me....my....your own name statements then its the first one (the completely normal the child with in ) and if you have wrote in the second/third party view of ..using someone elses name....she....he....it...they... then its the second where a person is co conscious of an alters feelings... mind you this is just how treatment providers here in my own location make this distinction between the normal feeling like a child vs sharing an alters feelings... other locations may have other standards... and like always only your own treatment providers can say which this is what this is in you.... my suggestion if this continues to bother you consult with your own treatment providers. they can help you discover what this is with in you. |
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May 19, 2013, 09:32 PM
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I do feel others feelings. The ones that are open to it. Some aren't. Yet. But I know exactly what it's like to get excited over books and toys. Clothes too.
It makes shopping not my favorite thing ever. In some cases it is really obvious that these feelings are not "mine". My T would say that they are mine ultimately, because they do not literally belong to a third person. she is really careful about not encouraging more splitting or fragmentation. But anyway, when I am fascinated by a toy meant for a six year old, or an item of clothing more appropriate for for someone of the opposite sex, and about twenty sizes to small, it's easy to tell who's up. Or maybe "active" is a better word. The number of others I have is faily small, so it's also pretty easy to see who it is. It's not just shopping of course. I have a teen whoes very concerned that things be fair. And if I watch a spooky movie of TV snow while a certain young one is active I will suddenly be terrified of the dark. I mean really afraid. Shaking afraid. Not exactly cool for some one in their 40's. Just some examples of what it's like for me. Oh these examples are from alts that kind of mix in with me when they are active. Some don't mix with me. So I can't feel their feelings. Why mix, or not mix? I don't know. Any more than I get how some are crazy active for short bursts, then seem to sleep for a week or two... Jax
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May 20, 2013, 08:10 AM
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One thing I learned in therapy is to talk to the feeling. I was surprised how the one holding the feeling was willing to talk to me. I have a happy one who loves to pick up frogs and stuff. I have always been aware of her as a feeling. A few years ago I asked her about herself. She was shy at first. She seemed to already know me. Sense then we communicate all the time. She is mostly happy but can also be scared and frighten. I never new this about her until a year ago. It has helped us both to develop this relationship.
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May 23, 2013, 02:02 AM
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Hi, we have DID for years now. We have accepted it. We believe that everyone that has DID has a system. We believe that every system operates differently, and may even operate differently from itself at times. All that said, here are some thoughts.
We are in an older male body. We have 3 females inside (an 8 y/o, a 15 y/o, and a 23 y/o)  . There are both advantages and disadvantages to this, but another time.About a week while enjoying a cup of coffee in the morning, suddenly had the desire to go try on princess costumes and tiaras. The host was co-conscious (like being in the passenger seat while the "alter" is in the driver's seat). It was easy to identify that this was Becky our 8 y/o. Don't know if this info helps, but we hope so.  Be Well and Walk In Beauty,  GreyWolf |
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