[innocentjoy]

My counselor is the first one who noticed I would switch, and she was the first I felt comfortable admitting to switching in front of. Lately we have talked about different issues, and more than one of us has a different reaction. I wrote down the differences in reactions, as well as the different types of support each responds best to. These are things that I have done to build trust between all of us. I'm wary of giving it to her, though because I dont' want her to think I'm trying to tell her how to do her job. As well, she is not my t, and so is not meant to do any in depth work with the alters. She supports us in everyday situations.
I just feel that I might not be so frustrating to work with if she understood that when I get on "this" topic/reaction, it is H, and she will relax quicker if people understand 'x' about her. When she's out though, she has no ability to tell my counselor what would help.
Any ideas??

[mazing]

I would share it with her if you can. Counselors are there to help and they can often only go off what you tell them. You are right that it might allow her to better identify the switch and know how to react. Alters can be tricky to manage as it is treating many different personalities and opinions in one session.

If you can, I would give it to her and if you are concerned also let her know that it is suggestions that might help her but you still respect her position and knowledge so she can use what she sees as helpful and relevant when assisting you.

Good luck with it

[innocentjoy]

Thank you! I think I will start making before/after session lists. One with a list of things I want/need to talk about (the most important at least) and one after a session where I can write down reactions, issues felt by us, etc.

I've found it really frustrating lately with different parts jumping in on different things. It just feels like we get side tracked, and nothing really gets dealt with. I'm hoping if I have a list my counselro can help me keep on track with everything. Then after if anyone is upset I can write down who was triggered, why, etc.

I'm pretty good at knowing what's going on with different parts, and have self-analyzed my entire life. I just dont' have the ability to counter everything they may need help with, or new insight on. That way, as well, it is all written down and I can go back to it if need be, it'll all be in one place, and I can see what we talked about.

I will probably modify what I had written, which will make it easier to give it to her. I really appreciate the encouragement, thank you!!!

[mazing]

You are very welcome I use a lot of lists as well - it helps me to stay focused and remember things so to me that all sounds like a great idea.