Lot's going on with insiders.
Struggling with keeping safe.
Need to communicate, cooperate--that means stepping out of my "no feeling, no involvement" safe shell and interact.
Frightened of what I will "touch" when unprotected. Frightened of what I will "hear" and need to do.
Not doing well with this new idea that I have to work with.
Options are NOT acceptable. No Hospital please, again....

[kimmydawn]

White_iris...all of you...

I do understand what you're talking about. It's a very scary, unsure place to be in.

Is there a way that you can share and work on what you need to but in a way that feels safer to you for now (for example journaling only, or a craft to explain)?

I hope no hospital too. PM if you want/need to.

KD

T-T-T-T-T

Get in touch, stay in touch with T.

Call and leave messages if that's what it takes.

She took your hand w_i. Don't let go.

She'll hold onto you tight throught it all.

We care,

Petunia

((((KD)))
(((((Petunia)))))
hanging on.

Thank you (((Petunia))))
You don't know how appreciated your hand is

[January]

((((((((((((( WI - All of you ))))))))))))))

I am here for you, too.

Hugs,

Jan

((((Jan))))
Thanks so much.
Too tired to talk.
Maybe later.

[January]

((((((((((( WI & All )))))))))))))

It's ok. Take your time.

Hugs,

Jan

white iris, remember your supports. We are all here for you anytime.

[(JD)]

Do what you can and leave the rest... baby steps on this. Both those items communication and cooperation are not developed overnight but through a long process... (even for singletons to realize we have an inner battle of conflicting desires and to learn how to resolve those issues is big too!)

Can you find ways to communicate that aren't so emotional or conflicting? Cooperation doesn't mean always giving in.

[LILITH]

W_I , so sorry you have having a bad time.... I hear you, I have been in that place so many times before. Take good care...

Today is better. Saw T yesterday. Trying to build a safety net for 7 yr old insider who SI's. At 7, she will b*te her tongue till it bl**ds, b*te herself, take baby ********n (thank goodness there is none in the house), h*t herself----When she is triggered out it is a challenge to keep her safe. Sometimes she's fine and is the sweetest little girl.

It's easier with the Bigs. T can reason with them or give them the option of hospital if they can't stay safe. Littles are harder. Re-directing only works for a little while. It's exhausting. If the system can't be safe our options are day hospital, babysitter, hospital. T won't really work with Willow until there is a safety net that is reliable. And Willow needs to talk on the outside. Things are quite stressful right now.

Christmas doesn't help......

(((( Willow in Wonderland ))))

Have her click here.... Chicken Song

[hillbunnyb]

)))))))) ) )white iris ((((((((((((

[wanttoheal]

(((((((((((White_Iris)))))))))))
I'm so sorry things are tough right now. I hope they calm down for you soon. I'm glad your t is helping with the safety net. Wishing you the best.

[BENNY]

HOPE YOU ARE FEELING BETTER! I STRUGGLE ALL THE TIME. MY ALTERS CAN'T SEEM COOPERATE, OR COMMUNICATE. WE ARGUE A LOT. IT FEELS LIKE I CAN'T MOVE. EVERYONE IS PULLING ME IN ALL DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS. I DON'T HAVE TOO MUCH TROUBLE WITH CHILD ALTERS. THEY'RE EASIER TO PLEASE. THEY CAN'T HANDLE GROWN UP STUFF. THEY'RE USUALLY QUITE, AND WANT TO BE COMFORTED. LATELY MY ADULT ALTERS CAN'T AGREE ON ANYTHING. IT'S GOTTEN TO POINT THAT I JUST DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING.

((((((Everyone))))))
There is alot of resistance---mostly to the changes we as a system need to make. Cooperation is not something we all are familiar with--some yes, others want to continue to do their own thing.
Communication between us is difficult, but slowly we are making some progress. Learning to listen inside is going to take time and practice. Not something we had modeled for us growing up. Learning to respect each other's opinions and hear each other is going to take time for all of us. Much to work on. Exhausting and frustrating. I seem to be losing more time than gaining.
w_i

[BENNY]

I DIDN'T THINK THE CHILDREN GAVE ME ANY PROBLEMS. LATELY I HAVE ONE THAT COMES OUT AND LETS ME KNOW IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS, THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO ASSOCIATE WITH ANYONE.

I WAS ANGERY AT FIRST. I THOUGHT SHE WAS TRYING TO SABOTADGE MY EFFORTS TO RECOVER. THE MORE I TRY TO BE SOCIAL, THE MORE SHE PUSHES PEOPLE AWAY. SHE DOESN'T TRUST PEOPLE, OR EVEN LIKE THEM. I UNDERSTAND THAT, BUT I CAN'T EVEN GET HER TO GIVE AN INCH. SHE WON'T EVEN BOND WITH US.

DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS. HOW CAN I COMMUNICATE WITH HER, TO JUST TRY A LITTLE. NOT EVERYONE IS BAD, AND WE'RE HERE TO PROTECT HER.

[January]

(((((((((((( WI & everyone )))))))))))))))

I hope things are better very soon.

Hugs,

Jan

[BENNY]

THANK YOU,
HOPE YOU GUYS ARE DOING WELL. I'LL BE HERE IF YOU NEED A HUG TOO. I'M SEEING THE T THIS MORNING. I'LL BE BACK LATER.

BENNY