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Jan 27, 2007, 02:47 PM
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I don't know what to do. I have an alter that I just found out was a "protector". A little background...I pushed them all away until about 6 months ago when I started listening to them. Now I know of 4 alters.
OK, back to the issue. The protector never said anything before. He just stood there, arms crossed. Well, something happened that made him speak up. Well, he told "me" that he has not going to do something and that was that! There is no compromising with him. I have a friend who thinks I should give each of my alters a "schedule" to come out. The problem is that I have always had control (with the exception of a couple of times) to the point where they talk "through" me and do not come out front at all. After years of pushing them away, I can't just make them come forward. I really want to let them so that they can get their own time and not be angry at me or anything. I just don't know what to do. I have always been frightened of what they may do or say if I let them out, so now I don't even know what to do. I know that I cannot make them come out and I can't beg them to come out, but I wonder if there is some way to encourage them or help them feel a bit more comfortable. Any Ideas? Suggestions? Help?
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Jan 27, 2007, 04:21 PM
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((( onlymedid )))
Are you/they journaling? It's a great way to start the communication process. |
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Jan 27, 2007, 05:43 PM
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Well, I have tried journaling, but nothing seems to come out. It is as though when I tell them that they can come out whenever they want, they hide even more.
Like, everytime I "say" it to them they run. Maybe I could try to journal again. When I tried it before I didn't know as much about them and was much more afraid of them. So maybe now would be good to try again. Thanks
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Jan 27, 2007, 05:53 PM
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when I tell them -- Like, everytime I "say" it to them
Maybe they are feeling pressured? Just write what you want and leave it around and let them read it. I think they'll join in when they're ready. It really sounds to me like you might be pushing too hard. Relax. Breathe. .gif)
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Jan 27, 2007, 06:00 PM
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(((((((((( onlymedid )))))))))))  Do you have a therapist? If you do have a therapist it would be a good idea to show your post to him/her. In my opinion this sort of thing can't be rushed. Writing things down, or writing a diary is a good idea too.
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Jan 27, 2007, 07:03 PM
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Yeah, I have a therapist. I told her that I wanted to let them come out, but she just said that it will come in time.
I think I may be pressuring them too much. I will try to just write things down and go with the flow. Thanks for the help and advice. I really appreciate it!
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Jan 29, 2007, 02:46 PM
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Hi (((((onlyme))))) Now that you realize that you have alters, you might find more. Protectors are good !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take gentle care of youselves 
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Jan 29, 2007, 10:01 PM
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((((((( onlyme ))))))))))
Hugs, Jan
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