need to write but unsure of telling all

T wants us to write stuff down about everyone but we are unsure. She can be trusted, we do trust her but I dont know. She already says DBT approach to DID is to not focus on it just like with 'problem' behaviours so why is it so important? Know they want it for assessment and to make official diagnosis but its scary really scary. just want to runs and hide under blankie. it safe under blankie realz safe and not scary no more and and if big write then they will find out about him and he dont want no one to know he here too. scared realz scared now

Your T is trying to help you and I think you should do as she suggests. You say you trust here so just write stuff down so she can help.

any idea where to start? we don't know how to start or what is needed and yeah.. too much going on

I wonder if you'd feel safer if you could write while your in your therapist's office with her. We've done that before, and it helped. That way we knew if something too triggering came up, we wouldn't have to deal with it all alone.

or just do the best you can. some alters don't want stuff known about them yet. this stuff does take time. Maybe write little bits. only what feels ok. I know when T asked the same for me (also for assessment purposes), it put me/us in to a terrible state. But that's just me, not saying that will happen to you. But wanting you to feel you have options and that your rights matter. If you feel it isn't right, then don't do it.
I like the idea of writing with T - then she can direct you and say "yes I need this part, no I don't need that part".... best!

iozza89 why is it so important.....well heres why I dont know about what standards of diagnostics they use where you are located but here in the USA we use the DSM 5. it used to be with the old diagnostics that a treatment provider had to witness the alters meaning verify the person had two or more alters of a special kind to be diagnosed. now with the new diagnostics a person with the alters can write down who their alters are and what they do for them as best they can. and from this a treatment provider can verify whether the person fits the diagnostics for having the two or more special types of alters required for a diagnosis of DID.

this new way of doing things takes the pressure off the person being assessed and their internal system as in they no longer have to worry about whether a treatment provider is going to try and trigger their alters into popping out. you and your alters can now feel safe knowing no one has to pop out or do anything out of the ordinary /not have to do anything you dont want to do (lots and lots of tests about triggering things)

you only write down what you and your internal system of alters is comfortable with the treatment provider knowing. if you have DID even just a few sentences about you and your internal system of alters is enough for a treatment provider to make the diagnosis.

its your choice whether you go through the diagnostic process and how much you want to write about you and those inside you. what I can say is that with a diagnosis for some people it opens the door for more treatment options so that you can feel better.

My trauma T showed me that I needed to pay attention to what felt safe. A few times I had to tell her I was scared to go on. I didn't introduce her to the Little One for a while. I still haven't told her the name of the little one. But there was a Strong Part of me that did want to talk to her and let her know some things so that's where I started.

I did admit to my earlier Ts though when one of my parts would scare me. Just because I was so scared, I was desperate for help. I trusted that my Ts would help me. (Sometimes this involved a change in meds, sometimes closer contact with a T through phone, texting.) They did help me feel safer.

It sounds like you can trust your T. Can you talk to her about how scary it is to write down information about your parts? Can you share your worries. I slowly introduced my trauma T to my different parts, when they felt safe to be known.

Ok so I saw my T yesterday and she said that if I was unable to write that stuff for K (the person doing the assessment then the assessment may be incomplete. And so after getting home safetly well to my friends place actually sent a really long txt msg to K saying what I could about everyone and if she needed anythign more she could call and I'd tell her what I could.. she called before and it was really hard but at least the txt I sent allowed her to ask specific qsts so that helped a lot. there was one alter I could not talk about though and she asked a few times (by asking different qsts) but I couldnt answer so she said that was ok.

she said she would finish writing the report tonight hopefully and pass it onto the supervisor for her to ok it and then she will meet with me and tell what she found and then we would go from there..

amandalouise now I get why she was ok with me writing everything down so thanks for explaining it to me