switching

has anyone ever experience having problems coming back out when you are inside? or having an alter that is out not beable to go back inside? if so what do you do about it? My therapist said if we dont back inside we can't come anymore to therapy because not everone can drive.
confused.

Sounds like your therapist is wise and trying to be supportive of your system as a whole. One of the goals of therapy is communication and cooperation, I guess really, that applies to just about any therapy, but it is very important with DID.

When my alters are at odds with each other, and me, for whatever has triggered the switching, it must be communicated in a way the outsider will understand, in a way the personality(s) will comprehend. These personalities are created for a purpose, that purpose is to survive. If the alter is not receeding, then trust your system to know why, perhaps it's something in the external enviroment which is triggering the alter to feel a need to stay external, communication at what ever level you feel you can, may help the one(s) out feel safe to come in, or visa versa..

I do hope the best outcome for you, all of you(s)...

Evangelista

I am not the only one who functions on the outside evidently and am grateful T knows that. If he would band us for that geesh I don't know what would happen. Man it is hard enough to get us there let alone to make sure who is out
when cuz he wants it. Man that just aint right.
Could not depend on someone like that.
mlyn

This is just a suggestion and maybe you are already doing this.
When all the other selves decided to make themselves known to me was a scary, facinating, confusing time.
I started writing things down, a journal. A very intersting thing started to happen, I was letting myself write down what ever came in my head. Suddenly it dawned me how different some of the hand writing was. My other selves were communicating. Having their say. They also expressed themselves when I would, I guess you could call it doodling. Sometimes all I did was sort let my hand relax and just move the marker aroung on the page. Then color inside the spaces. A lot of interesting images came up that way, some I never did understand. It has taken a few years to get cooperation and hopefully getting together for the good of all. I believe the writing and the doodling was a good start down our road to some kind of healing.

I used to be afraid of this happening after I saw a movie (Sci Fi not real) where the person had an alter that took over forever. So I asked my counselor about this an she said no it would never happen to me. that I only remain dissociated however long I am scared and such then when she has me calmed down I immediately am back to being in the here and now instead of past memories acting out. She said I could stop worrying about that. Alters never take over indefinately. They are there only however long the person is upset.

I was only diagnosed 3 weeks ago, but now realize I have been switching, or "checking out" as my therapist calls it for more than half my life! I never knew exactly what was going on, though I knew something was, but not until recent major stress at work did it start to happen continuosly that I became scared and sought help. My older sister has a more "severe" case, and I can see and hear the different alters, they are so obvious. Maybe I just don't see the difference, but I sure can feel it!! I know others see it, but I can't, at least not yet! Her experience in swithching is so different than mine. Hers is very physical, she can feel them trying to tear their way out and she can see them out the corner of her eye. Mine....I just know by the actual experience of the switch....a feeling of just disappearing, melting, feeling overly sedated, fading away or what i thought was just passing out.....but with my eyes open! It happens anywhere anytime, even when driving, but almost always as I go to bed. At this point, whomever is out is there til the next switch. No conflict at all, yet, just depends on the stressors that cause it all to happen I guesse. Still learning about it all.

it sounds like a fragmentation . there are different kinds of dissociation. i hope things get better for you. i know it is hard. and personally i hate it.
take care confussed