[scar12346]

So I guess we didn't really send Scar to the T for DID.
Scar has deep depression.. or something else, research is in progress, and the main reason was that but since DID and the system is a huge part of his life.. or the life of the body (all of us are alters, the original/core/the one born with the body is gone) we had to open up about it. Still he is not comfortable of letting us talk, and we respect his decision because we know that this might be a massive trigger, we still write notes and go into therapy by telling Scar what to say and what not.
Now we didn't just go and said "Oh I have DID" no, instead we discussed that the condition should be let out without a name. We are parts, the system is us. We don't use technical names and we are yet to say that all of us have a different story and the time that Scar sometimes feels as left out (which will be actually said in the next session). We wanted for her to give her diagnosis with hope that she will say DID as it because of Scar's doubts but it's taking too long and Scar's depression is growing stronger and we need help with that. Should we skip forward with about 10 sessions and throw DID out, of course by my help, or shall we stay in closed and let the woman do her job?
I guess if we did go in there with a main reason being dissociation we would say it first but we went there for Scar's voices and depression/something unknown and it seems kind of pointless.
Thanks for any help, Evee

It's great that you are doing this for one of yourselves. Therapy for Scar is helpful, but wouldn't therapy be for you all as a unit because each of you is a bit of the whole? Maybe Scar is carrying the baggage load for everyone so that everyone else wouldn't be depressed?

I mean, isn't part of therapy owning up for what was done through others? Accepting it all as a whole? Idk, it's just what I read about it. I can sit here all day and say yeah it all happened to us but not feel real about it.

So yeah, I'd mention the DID thing instead of putting a bandaid on the broken arm. IMHO..

[finding_my_way]

i got a confirmed diagnosis of DID yesterday after 12 years of seeing my psychiatrist. i wasn't able to really literally speak much the first few years because things were so messed up in my head and like a revolving door. i really thought i had explained things in depth to her, but it turns out i didn't really say as much as i thought over the years. i kept things more vague, just spoke about dissociation, feeling like i had other parts of myself, etc. and that was kind of it.

i tried to gauge her knowledge and if she believed in DID so had a few conversations about it (saying i knew someone online with it years ago, etc.) and things like that. i am lucky in the fact that she does believe it, has realized it in me, and has had a few others with it in her practice (i think two).

for me though, i lost communication with the others openly years ago. so now, it's just subtle things at times (sometimes more than subtle), and they don't take over, more we mix together at times which confuses me since i lose who i am in the process as do they, etc. and they more influence things from inside, i guess.

but to have it realized now by her has helped a lot, so i no longer have to hold things back or censor what i say (unless it's done from one of the others). she didn't want to outright say i had DID and has left it up to me to figure out due to potential instability if things were done wrong on her part.

so, i guess it depends on where you all are with things, what you want for the system, each other, yourselves, etc.