[Amyjay]

All of my others are lying and I want them to stop. I want my psychologist to know they are lying and she shouldn't listen to them. They are not telling the truth. The things they say never ever happened and I want them to stop telling lies. How do I make them stop? I am trying to stop them but they won't and I am getting desperate! I want my life back!

[Nickiskip]

write it down and give it to your ptrist. Its what I had to do to get my DID out in the open. it probably has to be split second before they catch on to what you are doing. Good luck.

[anais_anais]

Mine lie sometimes because it's the only way to make sense of what happened...

I think it isn't uncommon, and I suspect my Ts accommodate for it though it's never been spoken about directly. I hope you get the support you need.

We as a system has adopted the honesty policy because we really suck at lying due to all the switching. It has made existing a little more stress free with less trying to remember a lie. We usually out ourselves because not everyone is on the lie.

Lying to a shrink is a waste of time and money in my book...got other things to pay for imho.

Maybe you can try to get tge Others on board? We really are happier for adopting this policy.

[Amyjay]

I just came back from therapy and I need to stop going. The only way to be honest is to stop going and stop pretending anything happened.
I wanted to tell her it was all lies. I couldn't speak. I am not going to go back again. I need to stop all of this.

[Amyjay]

I sent an email to terminate therapy.
I don't want to impose my crazy on her anymore.

[Michael W. Harris]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

I sent an email to terminate therapy.
I don't want to impose my crazy on her anymore.

I don't lie. My alters don't lie. I am going to impose my mental health problems on Washington if I have to.

[Amyjay]

Mine lie all the time. Every single thing they say is a lie.

[dlantern]

Is there a written truth? Sometimes lies can be highly symbolic and way to get way from the norm a reminder. Are they being expressed in any way causing problems?

Originally Posted by Amyjay

I sent an email to terminate therapy.
I don't want to impose my crazy on her anymore.

Hey...you're paying her to deal with your crazy. She has to have realized that she's being snowballed? With all the b.s. flying at her....surely she suspects.

How about sending an email like you just posted?

I wouldnt quit.

[Amyjay]

She emailed me back. She wants me to go in for our appointment. I told her they were lying but I don't think she believes me. I hate this. I just want to be normal.

[blackrainbow]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

She emailed me back. She wants me to go in for our appointment. I told her they were lying but I don't think she believes me. I hate this. I just want to be normal.

i think you should go to the appointment i dunno what it is they are lying about
but maybe they need some kind of help and thats how they are asking for it or'something dunno
my T has been told things before things that to me sound liek lies cuz i dont
remember them at all i cant accept them i wont so its liek they are lying to
my T
i think you should keep going

[Amyjay]

thanks blackrainbow. My psychologist said she thinks I am scared because this is all coming too fast. She wants us to have a inner meeting or something but I don't know how to do that. she gave me homework this week to eat at every mealtime, go to bed at 10 pm and go for a walk each day.

Originally Posted by Amyjay

thanks blackrainbow. My psychologist said she thinks I am scared because this is all coming too fast. She wants us to have a inner meeting or something but I don't know how to do that. she gave me homework this week to eat at every mealtime, go to bed at 10 pm and go for a walk each day.

What kind of lies are being said? Deflections to keep people from seeing inside? If I lied about anything....it's to protect the system from being discovered out of fear. I would feel so exposed and vulnerable....like exposing a raw nerve.

How co-conscious are you? Can you speak with the Others? In our head we just talk, like take the lead and say what concerns you...it also entails listening to what the Others have to say.

It also amounts to a lot of respect...no yelling, accusations, put downs....more of compassion like you would sitting around a table talking to other people and friends like at a library, AA, class, dinner...

This helps stabilizing the system by staying calm. Some alters are emotional and may stay emotional, but that's not their fault...they are dealing with this just as much as you are, but from their perspective.

Getting everybody on board for the common good of your system will set you iff in the right direction.

You can't please everybody...but you can compromise and listen in.

We have learned to work together....talking to each other out of caring and love if not respect. We are all in this together. If one hurt...we all hurt. We are a family, a team for our system. Sure we don't always get along...but what family does? We love even the worst of us (even if they shock us).

We vote, discuss, debate, guide, everyone's opinion counts. It's a learned process.

I think it started by looking out into the blank and said 'can we talk? I feel..." Like standing on a stage talking out into the auditorium, then waiting for a reply from the audience.

This helped us get on a level. I hope that helps some.

[kecanoe]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

thanks blackrainbow. My psychologist said she thinks I am scared because this is all coming too fast. She wants us to have a inner meeting or something but I don't know how to do that. she gave me homework this week to eat at every mealtime, go to bed at 10 pm and go for a walk each day.

I think this sort of suggestion is a good idea. A routine helps with stability. Being stable and learning about inner meetings might help you figure out why your alters are saying what they are saying.