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Apr 02, 2018, 07:20 PM
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Hey, perhaps you can help me identify this problem. After some hard events last year I started feeling disconnected from myself. I don’t have a name for it and hopefully you can help with it. There came a point where I felt like the person I was before last year and the person I am now are almost completely separate. I basically look at my blog, personality, interests, and other stuff I used to identify with and feel like I am a stranger to myself. I’ve gotten a little better with this last year behind me, but I still feel like that person in 2016 is a separate entity. I’m worried that losing the friendship of someone I cared about at the beginning of last year made me break from myself. This is so hard to explain. Hopefully someone understands.
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Apr 03, 2018, 09:33 AM
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Just in case you missed it, there is a disclaimer at the bottom of each page that says psych central cant be a substitute for seeing actual off line treatment providers.... to ......me...... this means that no one here can answer/ tell to the whats, hows, whys of whats going on in you. only your own doctors can do that for you. we are not in your body so we cant possibly know whether whats going on in you is a mental disorder or not. what we do here is share what we ourselves go through, what our own doctors call things in ourselves and sometimes make suggestions of things that have worked for us that may help others. but we do not identify (diagnose) what problems are in others. in......me...... what you described my own treatment providers call normal. people normally do change how close they are to friends and family and what they think and feel about their self. a big part of this is the things like what we go through, experience, how our body works physically, how the senses interpret what we are experiencing and more...(your own doctors may be able to explain this in more direct terms of what you are going through if this is the same in you as it is me.) In me my dissociative disconnections were and are related to triggers. you know how if someone says something that you dont like it makes you feel mad. my dissociation was and is like that..... something happens first then because of that something I start feeling numb, spaced out and disconnected (disconnected meaning not really participating / just sitting by watching and at the same time unfeeling, unemotional.) example in the department store yesterday while I was buying one of my children a pair of new shoes, another shopper accidentally bumped into me. getting bumped by the stranger caused me to dissociate (feel emotionally numb to the point where I could not physically feel my body, Oh I knew I had a body, if I didnt I wouldnt be alive and breathing and shopping in a store with my child but I was disconnected (emotionless, unfeeling, numb, spaced out) the getting bumped was the trigger and the dissociating was the reaction to that trigger. my suggestion is if this continues to bother you, contact your doctors who can make the diagnosis of what is going on in you and get you treated for it so that you will soon feel better. |
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Apr 04, 2018, 01:32 AM
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Oh, I don't want anyone to misunderstand me. I'm not looking for a diagnosis on here, I just want to understand this better. I feel like I'm gaining a bunch of new problems and I'm just trying to make sense of them. I'm going to go see a psychologist next week. I just asked because I want to know if any other people feel like they are disconnected from themselves. I do this because sometimes explaining how I feel before I go talk to someone professional sometimes helps me more clearly explain my problems.
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Apr 04, 2018, 10:18 AM
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you see treatment providers do know when someone is going online or to others then repeating the same wording or style of another. a funny thing happened to me ....one time I was telling my treatment provider that I was dissociating but what I was saying was not matching up with my posture, and other appointment sessions, my file,.. one day he said ok let me get this straight you see yourself outside your body but when I asked you this question you answered no its not like that. you said you feel this way but when I asked you this question you answered differently... theres no way to feel this and not be the question I asked you... Then he said "I need you to stop trying to use other peoples words to clarify your thoughts and tell me what.......you ...... are feeling, what you are experiencing... not the wording and style and problems you are finding elsewhere. so which is it are you feeling this or are you feeling that, do you see your self outside your body, which is a completely different problem then you are trying to explain or are you doing what my question asked?" one thing about talking to others before going to a treatment provider... others have not gone through what you have in exactly the same manner that you have, they are not in your body, they dont have your chemical make up, life experiences and on and on and on.... So going online to talk to people who have the problem then using what they tell you to clearly tell your treatment provider what is going on inside you is only going to end up with all kinds of problems. heres another situation my sibling encountered... she asked a friend about a problem she was having. the friend explained how the friend saw the problem. my sibling went to a psychiatrist and used what she learned from her friend to make sure she clearly explained the problem. the psychiatrist asked her for further details and my sibling could not explain it, why because she was using what her friend told her to help clarify explaining it to the psychiatrist... my sibling learned theres more to being a mental disorder and having the symptoms then you can find out online or through her friends. no she wasnt faking it, just that there are key elements that treatment providers know that others dont and talking to friends and online is not going to give those key elements. which means when my sibling was asked about that key element she could not answer or give details. my suggestion is just be yourself, using your own words, and your own thoughts and how what ever problems you are having affects you. no two people have the same way things affect them anyway. treatment providers dont expect you to be able to clearly explain everything. they just want to know you, what your own problems are and how they can help you in what ever ways the problem is affecting you. |
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Apr 04, 2018, 12:09 PM
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Well that is exactly the reason to circle back if you want to get back to those things, this is wonderful. Something happens so how can you expect what was? I'm a proponent of talking in my environment on what I expect if attainable, if not get it safe enough to move on
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