Resolving internal conflicts

My system is currently working on resolving a major conflict between two groups of alters that are battling for control. My T thinks the conflict between these two groups is driving a lot of the ongoing dissociation, so working on this is currently our main goal in therapy. Boy it is hard.
On one side we have the alters that bonded to family and see family and join in the family denial that nothing bad happened and everything is fine.
One the other side we have alters that were abused and want nothing to do with family.
I and a couple of other alters are in the middle. We didn't experience abuse but we didn't experience a relationship with the family either. We don't know what is right or true because we didn't experience either one.
Now the two sides are a little closer instead of being completely amnestic for each other. It is pretty awful and we are experiencing a lot of SI, depression, etc. It feels impossible to live with this status quo.
It doesn't feel possible to see them, knowing what they did, but it also doesn't feel possible to not see them. Neither does it feel possible to not know.
Has anyone here been through something similar? Is there a way out?
T says this is why the dissociation has been so strong between these two groups, those that know and those that don't know. Because there has been no resolution to that conflict. It feels like there still isn't a resolution, and we wish everyone could go back to not knowing each other.
The problem is we have to find a way to work through this because it isn't safe for us and it isn't safe for our children. We know we have to do this. It is just so isolating and hard. We are not functioning well at all lately.

I know....good luck with that. I would like to hear it went well if not possible.

It’s so hard, especially when no one will budge. Our upset parts want to stay upset not letting go to whatever holds them- it’s their purpose and to let go means they are no longer valid and whatever they have has and will hurt us again. This one point is what tells us that we just might not ever be a singleton, ever.

It’s so exhausting and system upsetting when one has unresolved internal conflict. This is the strain of being a multiple..it’s what keeps us separated.

I wish you the best and that it is successful finally in your joining. Just keep on keeping on and soon your journey will end, prayerfully.

This kind of thing was happening with some of the alters in us at one poit and it got to be chaotic with two or more alters talking inside at the same time and arguing and I guess that this must've either forced out a dormant personality or caused it creation because (and at the time I thought it was just me when I've had enough) suddenly there was one who started identifying itself as "The Primary" who was very authoritative and started keeping the conflicting personalities in line and basically not putting up with any kind of crap which was a relief for me as they were all driving me nuts.
Because of PR (The Primary) there are no longer any arguments, unwanted switching save for triggers when, under stress and everyone showing respect for one another. Those of us with the most self control or who are more positive are not subject to PR's authority and I, Dan, the host am over PR as well as everyone else. Everyone obeys me now and those who would seek to cause problems are afraid of PR who is my enforcer. PR started out with no emotions but, has learned a little bit of emotion from observing me.
The most troublesome persona/alter, DH has calmed down as a result of entering into an agreement with me and we have stopped resisting each other. In fact after decades of conflict we are now getting along pretty well.
It's in a way like Piccolo and Kami getting along after so many years of conflict. Funny. Didn't think of it that way until now.