[onlymedid]

I cant fix this prob with BJ. She aint listenin to me. She is so hurt that she dont eat. She WONT eat. I got to much stuff to deal with beside dealin with that prob too!!!
I got the little one to chill a bit but I cant do this on my own. I aint got no one to talk to bout this and I feel like Im gonna lose it or somethin.
She thinks she doin it to just her but it is all of us bein hurt by this.
Any ideas from anyone?

Later,
Beau

[CedarS]

You can keep talking with us. Tell us more about what is going on if you like.

Is BJ listening to anyone? Is there anyone who can help get through to her that she needs to eat?

Also, do you know of any special treats that BJ might eat and enjoy?

Would a good night sleep help everyone? Another idea - is there any healthy way to distract BJ? Some fun safe entertainment?

Will BJ tell you what she needs before she will eat?

And do you have any support yourself, any good therapist?

[onlymedid]

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CedarS said:
You can keep talking with us. Tell us more about what is going on if you like.

Is BJ listening to anyone? Is there anyone who can help get through to her that she needs to eat?

Also, do you know of any special treats that BJ might eat and enjoy?

Would a good night sleep help everyone? Another idea - is there any healthy way to distract BJ? Some fun safe entertainment?

Will BJ tell you what she needs before she will eat?

And do you have any support yourself, any good therapist?



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She aint listenin to no one. She says she dont even care if she ends up in the hospital because nothin matters no more. She thinks she messed up to bad this time. She is tryin but she said she feels like she dont deserve to eat nothin no more.
She thinks the nice T will understand but we dont see T til tusday. and today is just saturday night.

She likes cheese burger from wendys and french fries. I got her to want it the other day but she was workin and said shed get it after work but she changed her mind on the way home and pased it up.

We dont get not good sleep cuz she wakes up all night tryin to cuddle with the boyfrend but he aint there no more. He left and she feels its all her falt.

as for distractions she likes video games and sodoku puzzles but dont even want to try those cuz they aint no fun right now. she thinks she dont deserve to have fun.

She says she aint gonna eat til the BF is here again.

as for T since BJ is the host she goes but we cant talk or nothin cuz we been hurt to many times to try again rite now. BJ tries to talk bout us, but I dont think T knows what to do. Shes real nice and real helpful and lets BJ doodle (T dont know its the little ) but I dont think she gets our family inside much.
I drew some pictures to help her understand a little. I will make sure BJ gives to her on tusday.

thanks for respondin'

Later,
Beau

[CedarS]

I wonder if since BJ likes the T, and that appointment is on Tuesday, you can encourage her to eat now, so she can have energy for the appointment.

Can the T be called on the phone and told about what is going on? I know what you are saying about the T maybe being sorta clueless but since she tries, and is nice, and wants to be helpful, maybe she can be guided as to how to best be supportive.

The BF would want BJ to eat, can she understand that?

What food do you like, what are you eating lately?

BJ sounds upset, I wonder if she can be helped to see that eating will help her a lot, she will be able to tell others what is going on, she will have energy.

I believe BJ deserves fun and good food, as do you all.

[onlymedid]

oh that is true cuz if somethin happens and she cant go to T then that will be bad. I will see if it works to tell her bout seein T and gettin energy.

She dont wanna call T cuz she dont like buggin her bout stuff as miner as this. She dont think talkin to T will do good.

T is so very nice. I really like her out of all the ones we ever saw before. We sure hope she can understand better soon.

She says she knows that the BF would want her to eat but cuz he aint here there aint nothin he can do bout it.

I really like corn dogs and I had one tonight with cheetos! I love cheetos and so does Jo-Jo(the little). Jo-Jo ate some and got orange fingers now!

Ill try to convince BJ to eat. She can just be so stuborn sometimes.

You are really nice. Thank you

Later,
Beau

[Kiya]

good that you and the little are eating - i was concerned that no one was getting food.... and if that is still true - i was thinking maybe you could make alphabet soup - that will at least get the little to play and eat....

can you (beau) call t or print these pages and take them... or better yet, take these pages and email t? we in this system are allowed to write to t... we don't talk to her yet. so we email and can tell her anything we want. our t doesn't udnerstand the system either but she is willing to learn. she wants us to write as much as we want to she can learn.
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[onlymedid]

even tho me and jo-jo are eating, BJ is not and she is the body. So even tho we got food it aint doin no good for the host body.

as for emailing that is a big NO NO for us cuz only BJ can talk to T not us til BJ can trust that T will believe us. We think she will but rite now so far she aint done nothin to make BJ believe she thinks we are real.

I will ask BJ to let us talk to T or to at least keep tryin to tell T when somethin is the matter with us.

thanks for the help and advise.

Later,
Beau

[Kiya]

sooooooooo how do you get food and the body doesnt? is it not real or is it in the mind, or pretend like kids do when they are hungry?

[CedarS]

(((((((Beau))))))))

You are working hard to help everyone be okay, I appreciate you for that.

BJ needs to eat so she has energy to go to that nice T. And she can tell T now what is going on, remind her that it is up to the T to make decisions about whether something is minor or not. And there is no way to tell if something will work or not before we try it. Let the T do her job.

[onlymedid]

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sooooooooo how do you get food and the body doesnt? is it not real or is it in the mind, or pretend like kids do when they are hungry?

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um well we get the real stuff inside cuz we can have watever we want to and whenever we want to. its just when BJ doesnt eat then we get real tired too. its real to us, but we pretend sometimes to. when Jo-Jo plays its pretending.
I dont know if it makes sence to you I hope so. sorry if I confuse you. I hope not.

Later,
Beau

[onlymedid]

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CedarS said:
(((((((Beau))))))))

You are working hard to help everyone be okay, I appreciate you for that.

BJ needs to eat so she has energy to go to that nice T. And she can tell T now what is going on, remind her that it is up to the T to make decisions about whether something is minor or not. And there is no way to tell if something will work or not before we try it. Let the T do her job.

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Thanks for apreciating me. its nice that someone can see that Im workin real hard rite now.

She still wont eat. ate nothin yesterday but two cokes.
She said she lost 4 pounds since thursday. that scares me some. it means that she is wilting away rite? that means that we are gonna wilt to rite?
She says that its just two days til T and we can wait til then.
I think I give up with this one. I can just take care inside for now.
thank you so much for helping me. I really apreciate it.

Later,
Beau

[PsyChris]

It makes sense, what does BJ think about the suggestions people gave?

[onlymedid]

oh she knows that everyones rite. she knows she SHOULD eat but she thinks she dont deserv it. she feel like she needs to be hurt or punsihed or somethin. i tell her SHE didnt leave that the BF did but she thinks its her falt he left anyways.

she WANTS to eat but dont feel like she deservs it. She got all the food out for brekfast and I got real excited but then she just put it all back in the frigerator. she says even tho she feels real tired and like she mite fall down sometimes she dont care.

dont know what to do anymore.

Later,
Beau

[Kiya]

((((((((((((hugs!!)))))))))))))))

[onlymedid]

hey thank you alot. i like hugs!

Later,
Beau

[RozG]

hey Beau

i think you're a strong one

i think you're the only one who can make BJ listen

don't give up on her ok?

[onlymedid]

I keep tryin. i ALMOST got her to eat and i was so close. i will be strong and keep tryin.

Later,
Beau

[CedarS]

(((((((((Beau)))))))))

Thank you for working so hard to help BJ.

Sometimes when I'm not doing well, when I think that I'm a bad person and don't deserve good care, it helps me to do something fun. Even if I still don't think I deserve it anyway.

So I pick some sort of simple food, maybe crackers and cheese. Maybe I eat that while I watch something fun on TV, maybe even cartoons (I love the Simpsons).

[onlymedid]

oh i love the simpsons. and the family guy one to. did you see that i wrote she ate somethin? isnt that great?!
then we went for a walk and theres lots of people outside. lots at the park playin games and eatin bbq.
it was nice.
thanx for helpin so much. and for all the hugs to.

later,
Beau

[CedarS]

Oh good, glad she ate and you all went for a walk, how cool!

The Family Guy show is fun too. I'm a big Simpsons fan.

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((BJ & Beau)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I am so glad you got something to eat. Please keep trying.

BB

[onlymedid]

i am glad to BB and im gonna keep on trukin LOL

Later,
Beau