Something positive

I just wanted to write some positive things about DID and some things that I'm thankful for, because so often, all I can see is the negative.

• I'm so thankful that while I might not remember what I do during my days and while I sometimes lose days and weeks, this brain is about survival and does what it needs to do to continue on.

• I'm thankful that my brain was intelligent enough to be able to do what it needed to do, to cope with the things that went on for me as a child so that I did not die or go crazy.

• I'm thankful that my children had a mom who was able to understand and support them without judgment or condemnation.

• I'm thankful that because of DID, I did not become like them and that my brain split because I was not like them.

• I'm thankful that I am getting stronger.

• I'm even kind of thankful that while there are a lot of painful things I have gone through and have yet to process, that each step brings me closer to better understanding and coping with today.

• I'm thankful that while I may feel crazy, I am not crazy.

• I'm thankful that DID makes things make sense for me.

Can you add something positive about your dissociation (not just DID, but all dissociative disorders)?

((((((((((( wanttoheal ))))))))))

I met you guys.

like Orange_Blossom said, I'm thankful I met all you folks, and without my alters giving me down time the stress would be too much to deal with

i'm thankful my children understood pre-school that D.I.D. comes from hurt and doesn't mean you're crazy or dangerous.

i'm thankful my children like to play with my littles and don't find it weird one little bit.

i'm thankful i found pc to get to know others like me as i don't irl.

(((((((( everybody ))))))))

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OMG that was so cute. I needed that!

I have in inside family better than my real one(on dad's side) ever was.

BJ

Well.. This morning my alter was kind of like my therapist. So because of her, I was in total control of myself.

You're the best Peg!

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I totally feel the same way Orange.



You guys sure have made the way much nicer for sure!

Nothemama, I'm so glad to have met you!

I so understand about that. I'm thankful that even when I can't carry on, some other part can and does.

((((((((((((((Kalamity_Jane)))))))))))))))

Oh yea, so true! My kids always comment on how when they were younger, I played right beside them and interacted with them. It's a fond memory for them and I'm thankful they have that!

Definitely not crazy. We may often feel it, but we aren't. It's a coping skill that was much needed when we were younger.

I'm so glad you found PC. We are blessed to have you here!

(((((((((((((((((Orange)))))))))))

I LOVE that! Now it's playing in my head over and over. Wait! Another positive. Even if we forget the music, some part remembers it.

Thanks Orange, you're the best!

(((((((((((onlymedid))))))))))))

I so know what you mean onlyme. Our brains protected us from so much. It's nice to know we have a whole family that was there when we needed them as children. Our brains really did take care of us.

Even angry and suicidal parts carry things for us. I'm thankful that my brain works like that so that even while stuff is YUCK, my brain knows when enough is enough. I hope one day to be able to work together for the good of the whole.

That's so awesome Katie! Thanks for sharing that!

(((((((((((((((((Katie_Kaboom)))))))))))))))))

What a GREAT thread! We need to see and know the positive when it's there, because there's so much that's confusing, triggering, upsetting, etc.

I'm thankful for the child creating the DID because it helped me to survive...physically and mentally.

We're different, yes, but different in an amazing, awe-inspiring way. We *had* to be different, and what a gift we have.

KD

Another positive thing came to mind when I was thinking of the people in my life - some parts initiated friendship with them, and I am mostly a very shy person myself, so without the "outgoing" parts I probably wouldn't have some of my closest friends.

(((all)))

((( All with dissociative disorders )))

I've learned that there is light at the end of the tunnel and people can heal.

I hope if you are new here or newly dx'ed, you will hold on tight to those words.

As a friend just said to me, "you are not alone."

(((((((((((((((KimmyDawn))))))))))) Thank you for sharing here. We all are amazing, aren't we.

Recently I had a realization of how DID helps me even today. My daughter was struggling to do something that had to be done. I have struggled with understanding this for a while. Why can't she just do it? It wasn't really a choice thing in my mind. She had a choice of course, but the reality was that this thing needed to be done. But she couldn't do it.

My T and I discussed it and I realized with T's help that often when I can't do something, it still gets done. And that is because when I am unable to, another part of me takes over and does. I may not always remember how it got done and sometimes I find out later that it did get done, but the fact remains that it did get done.

Ahhhh, lol. I also remember when daughter was afraid to go to a crowded place, so being a good mom, I told her to just make the people go away in your head so you can't see them. She said mom, I'm not like you, I can't do that. At the time, it struck me as so odd that she couldn't (at that time I did not realize the extent of my dissociation). Now of course, I'm thankful that she can't lol. But to be honest, I often find myself thankful for things like being able to not see things that would otherwise make me paralyzed with fear.

(((((((((((((((Katie))))))))))))))))

Oh gosh, can I relate to that! When I try to think of how I met people in my life, I realize that for me, there was no beginning, they were just always there. And that was because I am scared to death of people and new things. Fortunately when that happens, a very social part comes forward and carries on. I think eventually I get to where I am comfortable with someone and so stay present more. It's such a gradual thing, I think, that it seems as if I just know people.

I'm thankful for that. Otherwise I would be a hermit!

You said it girlfriendflower!

(((((((((((((((((((Orange_Blossom)))))))))))))))))))

Dissociative disorders are one of the best possibility of healing disorders one can have.

I'm so glad we all have each other here. It's amazing to me sometimes when I read something someone says and I think, wow, them too??? It makes me feel like I'm not alone and I'm not so crazy. (Well, I might be crazy, but not from the DID .)

I love the big hug bear Orange. You are a very special flower. I know for me, I'm so thankful to know you.