[onlymedid]

I was in T yesterday and was telling T about how one of my littles views past abuse. T asked if the little knew that it wasn't happening anymore and that both the people are gone now. Well, I had to tell T that with the little, it feels as though it just happened yesterday. Everything feels as if it happened yesterday because she has not ever moved on from one age.

Is this a normal thing for those with DID? For one alter to be stuck at a specific time, feeling as though the abuse is happening right now or yesterday?

Thanks,
BJ

[iamtwilight]

I'm not one to say whether it's normal, but I've heard of others having it that way and that's exactly how it is for one of my littles too. Guess it means that this particular little needs to work on that trauma?

Sorry I couldn't be of help more. :/ Maybe someone else has insights on this.

[wanttoheal]

Hi!
I think it can be completely normal (funny that I can be normal even though I'm crazy. ).

According to my T, a lot of parts of me are stuck in time (I think from their age of trauma). She has said that she has talked to parts that only talked about "then". They had no concept of today. She said once she even asked about emailing but they didn't know what she was talking about because that word wasn't in their vocabulary because of the age and time they were stuck in. They apparently did not even know who she was. From what she has said, the abuse is going on "now" in those parts of my brain with no concept that we are grown up and relatively safe now. There can be healing though. Hang in there.

At least we are normal.

[Kiya]

Yeah, i am sure it is a common thing. I am like that with somethings - like the flashbacks. and then the parts that come out then after it are stuck there.

Unlike Want2heal, most of my alters are fairly close together. T and I still cannot confirm wehether it is really co-consciousness, or just that they are all close in the mind. Because they do act independently of each other, but most can hear the others or hear me if I need to give instructions - but then those voices are "at the back" and sound far away when an alter is up front. so they know things about current stuff and know what i'm doing tomorrow, know the t, etc.

[onlymedid]

Thank you all for the responses. It really helps to know that I am not alone and that I am NORMAL! LOL

I wish they weren't stuck and hopefully with time they will age and learn more.

BJ

[I_WMD]

onlymedid ,,,,There can be a few that sit in limbo >> or have an alter ego / protector stuck there also ,,, It may sound odd,, but if the age same alts make a steady place for themselves they may get into adolescents and age as they find and catch up with there counter parts ..

Sounds WTF ,, but I have those that actually seem to not need to be so hyper responsive >> Some kinda inner trust maybe ,, .

[onlymedid]

Hmmm, that is interesting. I understand what you mean. I sure hope the little grows. She is only 7, so there is much learning to be done here.

Thanks WMD for that insight.

BJ

Recently... my T started doing a therapy of buddy up...

so to answer your question..

for me..

several of my "littles" are unaware that it is "present" day.. and their abusers are no longer there.. they know - that time.. their time only..

I know this because.. my therapist told me..

I also know.. because he started this "buddy up" system - finding one alter.. that he has been working with... that can be present.. with the "little" - this takes alot of work...

I have done this with my not so little - a 12 year old... so I am aware of the process - he says things to me "he is no longer here.. he cannot hurt you" - this somehow filters from me to her.. the "he".. is her abuser...

the 12 year old has gotten.. advanced as far.. as what is going on present day.. and she now.. is "there" for the 4 year old.. my therapist became able to communicate directly with the 12 year... so the process continues...

it works.. for me..