[___Shadow___]

don't tell anyone, i told my husband of 17 years after and he used it against me!
he was yelling at our son again, and i screamed stop yelling at our kids, please, he freaked. he told me i'm f...ed , i got to go, sign myself in, and he hates me over and over again at the top of his lungs!
i realized a couple of days ago, it was the anger holding me by the gutts, i told him, he did it anyways.
he ever said he didn't even yell, i asked the kids and yup, he yell big time!
So if your not sure if you should tell, don't!!!
i did it because i finally found out i thought he'd understand, but you know what thought did...?

((((((((((((((((((((Shadow))))))))))))))))))))))

[wanttoheal]

I'm so sorry ((((((((((((Shadow)))))))))
I can understand your desire to tell him. It seems after 17 years, he would be safe. I'm sorry it wasn't safe to tell. Here, my kids already knew. They just didn't know what it was called. They actually found out what was going on with me before I really knew and accepted it. Knowing validated them because it explained so much for them. Maybe once your husband has time to accept, he will feel the same? It made so much sense when we found out what was going on here. I wish the same for you in time. Hang in there, it can get better.

[Kendyll]

I'm so sorry that your H is being such a butt-head!
I don't get it - it's not that hard to love someone, is it? So why do so many SOs reject people? Why don't they want to understand? Y'all are still the same people they fell in love with, so what's the big deal?

Idiots...
Well, we love you here!!!!

[JudeeB]

Reading your post makes me sad. I am so sorry he reacted that way.

I've come to believe that people respond to our mental health issues because of their ignorance, selfishness or fears. They react out of their baggage or immaturity. I believe some of the people I told first thought was more about how this news affected them than how it affected me. Would I still be able to meet THEIR needs if this was true? Would I get all the attention now? Would THEY have to do something for me for a change?

Maybe some of my bitterness is seeping out here but I had some Bozos in my life too.

What I had to learn was how to discern safe people from the unsafe. Their degree of self-centeredness and self-absorption was a huge clue.

(((((Shadow))))))

Judee

[multipixie9]

Shadow,

I'm really sorry he was unkind and did not accept. Maybe he will accept like someone said, when he has time to think it through...

With all the mean jokes and stuff the world says about us he may have just felt fear when you told him.

If its just selfishness then phooey on him. If it is fear and a need to understand more then maybe it will be ok.

Sadly, my husband of 28 years refuses to accept it. He thinks I use this for an excuse to keep from having to "just get over it all"!!! Boy, that makes me really angry when I think about that (so I don't very often) - what a crock to think I would choose this way to "duck my responsibilities"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shadow, I believe you. My children, like yours believed me too. They had seen for years that mom changed and acted like a kid sometimes. They were mostly just relieved to understand what was going on and basically why it happened.

shadow, we soree he meen to u. we be u freen. boys can be dum!

HUGS!!!

Leslie and Mariah and the pixies!

(for him)


(for you!)

[___Shadow___]

OH THANK YOU, ya He's not going to help, never. He yells at the kids all the time and wonders why I can't stop crying. Don't worry, I'm finding a happy place I thought I lost inside right now. I might not be commenting much for a while and I' sorry, I just don't want my h knowing anymore about me. But you are all in my heart and I hope you all can find that little part inside that smiles while I'm gone, BUT I"LL BE BACK!!
LOVES SENT TO EVERYONE HERE