[silentandscared]

I dont think l can carry on dening the existance of theothers. They are making my life hell. arging all the time, keep asking them what l should do but they dont seem to theanswers and are pissed at me. Tried to get them to write but endingup a jumbled mess l cant figure out. kay is crying crying all the time how can l help her . Please just dont knoe what to do????:Bawling:unno:

[thelostone]

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don't know how to help, but i am here.

lost

[sabby]

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Hon, maybe the constant denial is what is making them angry. I understand how it may be scary for you to accept and validate them. But by denying them is invalidating....and it hurts.

Writing out what they need to say even if it doesn't make sense to you right now doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Maybe in time, as you work through their existence more understanding will come on your part and on theirs.

Can you hold Kay for awhile and let her know that it's ok to cry? Maybe you can let Kay know that you hear her and you want to help her?

I hope you are feeling better soon!


sabby

[silentandscared]

Originally Posted by _sabby_

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Hon, maybe the constant denial is what is making them angry. I understand how it may be scary for you to accept and validate them. But by denying them is invalidating....and it hurts.

Writing out what they need to say even if it doesn't make sense to you right now doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Maybe in time, as you work through their existence more understanding will come on your part and on theirs.

Can you hold Kay for awhile and let her know that it's ok to cry? Maybe you can let Kay know that you hear her and you want to help her?

I hope you are feeling better soon!


sabby

thank you for understanding me because l really dont at the moment . Yes me dening them is probably not helping and that is proably why they so angry l think l dont know Trying really hard with Kay at moment keep telling her that im sorry and want to help her but she keeps saying l left her on her own. So sorry didnt mean for her to be hurt want her to let mehelp but shes so sad because of me. so much anger , pain and hurt and think its all my fault. Sorry this is just rambling but none of it makes sense really need it to be tuesday, need to see t, need to tell someone and get it out. Im sorry thanks for listeneingxxx take care:Sob::Sob:

[wanttoheal]

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I'm glad you can see T on Tuesday. It's so nice to have that support and to have someone to hold our words. I think you're doing well silent. Keep going.

[multipixie9]

Silent and Scared,

My insiders got very angry with me when I didn't want to admit I had insiders. For a long time I was not nice to them and it made it worse for them. If I had just been sweet to them sooner it would have been helpful.

I finally got on a forum, a closed forum for people with DID and my littles started writing what THEY wanted to say. They were quite angry and said some really, uh, bad comments - like cursing and all because they had stored up their anger for so long and it hurt them so much.

When no one got angry with them for talking angry they began to calm down and share more of why they were upset. They just need to be heard and not told they are liars. When a person is little they don't always make sense of how they say things. They don't have to say things like a grownup would. They have lots of pain and need to be comforted.

I believe them and I believe me own insiders. I just HAD to STOP DENYING THEIR REALITY.

Leslieann