[multipixie9]

I hurt because I lost another supportive person. I did not get better on his time schedule. They all go away, at least they all have so far. I'm alone

((((( Leslie & Pixies )))))
Getting better takes time and should only be done on your own schedule, not someone else's. I'm sorry you lost this person. My thoughts are with you.

You still have us, pixies.

You have a lot of people who care deeply for you here.

[Kiya]

I'm so sorry that happened. I don't know where ppl get their "time schedules" for healing. it is so frustrating. Remember, here, we all get it - there are no such things as time schedules for healing.
((((((((((multipixies)))))))))))))

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((((((((((((Leslie and the pixies))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I am sorry that someone put a time table to your healing. Everyone heals in thier own time and one has to be patient and loving during the process. You are not alone. We are all here for you. On your time schedule.

BB

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((((multipixie)))))))))))) I hope we can help support you. It's so hard when people do that as if we wanted to stay where we were or are. We are glad you're here.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((( Leslie and pixies ))))))))))))))
I don't get the time schedules for healing thing . I'm sorry this has happened you do have us though

[pattyannee]

I'm sorry this happened to you.

[silentandscared]

(((((((((((multipixes))))))))))))))))))))

oh honey im so sorry that people fel that they can put a limiton the time that you need to heal. None o fthese things happened in just a day and should not be expected to heal in a certain amount of time.
we feel for you and l want you to know
YOU ARE NOT ALONE we are here with you now and always
no time limits, no judgements just here to be with you on your journey through the good and bad
Take good care of yourselfand know we are herexxxxxxx

safe and warmhugs to youxxxxxxxx
mandyx

((((((((((((((multipixie)))))))))))))))))))

You're never alone here sweetie and I agree with what the others say .... there should be NO time limit on your healing, it takes as long as YOU need it to take ..... thinking of you, Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxo

[sabby]

(((((((((((((((( Leslie & pixies ))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry you lost a supportive person in your life. It hurts and makes us think we are to blame. But that's not always the case my friend. Many times when people leave us it's because of their own issues, not ours. Unfortunately we cannot control how others feel or act, but we can control ourselves. You have much much love and support here. I know it's not the same as what this person who left meant to you, but you are definitely not alone dear ones.

I'm sorry you are hurting right now and I hope you feel better very soon.


sabby

[Sannah]

I'm sorry Leslie....

[multipixie9]

thank you all for your kind support and your acceptance of me right where i am. that is a huge gift and it means so much to me.

my friend and i swapped emails and he is worried that i think i wont heal unless i dig up all the past and confront it. i used to feel that way and now I DO NOT. i trust my God to help me get healing in many ways and they DO NOT have to include me knowing everything that happened to me. i do not even want to know the full measure of the horror i witnessed and/or experienced.

what i would like to have, if i could, is my friends trust. i want him to trust me that i have not made a choice to have woundedness and victimization as my identity. i would like him to believe me when i say how tired of the healing journey i have become. it would mean a lot to me if he would just understand that i am at the place where i must put one foot in front of the other and breathe in and out and do what comes to me until the job is done and i can move on to a place where healing is not the center of my life - but one of the satellites that encircle my life.

in the past some have shamed me by saying i wanted to be on the "sick list" to escape from life's challenges and responsibilities. maybe i was back then, i'm not sure. i am sure now that i want to be in the mainstream of life without "handicap plates" to designated me as one of the walking wounded.

thank you to all of you who stated your support and all of you who keep warm thoughts for me. it makes a difference in my life that you are here !!!

((((((((((griffe, orange blossom, kiya, bipolarbear, )))))))))))(((((((wanttoheal, fuzzybear, pattyannee,))))))))))))) ((((((((silentandscared, jinnyann, sabby, sannah))))))))))
OFFERING SUPPORT WHEN YOU, YOURSELVES ARE IN PAIN IS HEROIC AND IS A BEAUTIFUL GIFT TO ME!!!

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( multipixies )))))))))))))))

[BeckyC]

I am so sorry people have let you down like that. I read your replys to peoples post and you are so csring in the mist of your healing,so whoever this loved one was that wouldn't allow you time to heal your way has lost a great intelligent Person!!!!! Take care of youself and we are here with you.

[multipixie9]

thank you all, your support, kindness and even humor are such a comfort to me. i am so very glad i stumbled across the Psych Central website when i was up late one night. it has been such a help. you mean so much to me.

(((((((orange blossom))))))
(((((((fuzzy bear))))))
(((((((beckyC))))))

Ya Know What? I am bouncing back quicker these days and I truly believe it has to do with the kindness and support given here on PC.com!!! YOU ALL ROCK !!!!!

[Luce]

So sorry you are going through this, Leslie and Pixies. Sometimes it's just not fair... when the people we wish could stay and support us are unable to because of some difference that is vital to the survival of the relationship. I am so sorry this particular friend doesn't understand in the way that you need him to... I can tell that it really hurts.

Keep on taking good care of you in all the ways you know how. You are doing a really good job!

[multipixie9]

thanks Luce, i appreciate the support so much. it really does hurt when someone who means a lot removes that support and judges me and my alts. i'm grateful i had his support as long as i did. i wrote and tried to explain, but did not get any further response so that seems to mean he doesn't seem to see what i see. sad.

your mood banner says you're having a real tough time yourself. i don't know what's going on but i'm sorry you feel really bad. hang in there and PM me if you would like me to listen.

leslie and pixies

(((((((((((((((((((((((((( PIXIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((( Leslie )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

We are still here. I'm sorry you got hurt.

Love and