[Catlovers141]

I have a part who is little, under six years old and today I heard her crying and she said she was sad and scared. I kept talking to her and she said that I don't like her and don't care about her. Everything I said or asked her had that response. When I asked her what I could do to make her feel better, she said I had to like her first. I'm not sure what to do at this point. I'm not very good at figuring out what to do to help parts feel better....

[Omers]

when that happens with me I try 2 things... one I see if there is someone else inside that they will talk to and give more information to. two, I just do things they might like to do and see if they start talking... we color, I am never without Mr Bubble bubble bath... I have also taken them out and let them pick out a stuffed toy to help comfort them.

Hiya,

I'm with Omers, I let a couple of my others pick out something nice. For the two little girls, it was a shirt. For the older guy it was a beach towel. One of the girls really doesn't like me, but when I told her we were going to pick out a shirt just for her she was so excited screaming, I want purple, I want purple! That opened the doorway to conversation. When I wore the shirt for her it helped the relationship that much more. It's hard to show them we like them. For instance, the one that doesn't like me her name is little tara (she pronounces her name tear-a, I pronounce my name Tar-a). She doesn't like me because she doesn't think I believe her about the abuse. In all honesty I do, she just doesn't think I do enough (talk enough about it or acknowledge it enough) to really validate her. It's little things that make her feel like I like her. I think once she feels I like her she can open up her mind to the idea of me believing her.

Baby steps.

Love and hugs,
Tara

[Omers]

A big hit inside here is bringing them out to lunch or dinner... especially if they can order off the kids menu! If you go through the drive through no one knows you are getting it for you. Also, because it is often fast food) the kids meals have options like apples and have less calories than a grown up meal.
A lot of the chains have what ever toy they have going on now on their web page. Sometimes that can be important to know

[Catlovers141]

All of your ideas sound great! I have tried some of them, like today I tried to do activities that I thought she would enjoy. They worked once before but right now it feels more difficult. I'm not sure why all of a sudden she is really upset about all of this...

[Korin]

Just keep doing what you are doing. Constant reassurance is the key. Kids meals and little toys work wonders.