[TheGreatGatsby]

Lately my 5 year old alter has been extremely upset. I can't figure out why, I've tried everything! I'm about at my wits end.

She doesn't even seem to be triggered by anything. Just lately she is extremely upset and cries. Does anybody know what to do in a situation like this?

[pugnose]

Originally Posted by TheGreatGatsby

Lately my 5 year old alter has been extremely upset. I can't figure out why, I've tried everything! I'm about at my wits end.

She doesn't even seem to be triggered by anything. Just lately she is extremely upset and cries. Does anybody know what to do in a situation like this?

Have you tried getting her to open up by playing one of her favorite games, coloring, etc? Sometimes I do "bear talk" where we each have a bear and just talk about what is wrong. And don't forget to remind her that the others are there for her also. Perhaps one of them could reach out to her. I have one peep that will only talk heavy stuff to one of my others.
If nothing else works just trying rocking her and let her cry on your shoulder.
Pugnose and her peeps

[pegasus]

Hugs and comfort. You are safe now.

(((((((((((( TheGreatGatsby )))))))))))

[sorrel]

Maybe create a safe room inside your mind, and invite her in to sit with you. If she wants to throw things, let her, as long as she and you are safe, and firmly assert that you're there for her and that you're not frightened by her feelings.

[multipixie9]

i think maybe the first thing to do is offer comfort, non-verbal rocking , patting her back, offering hugs and touches that just make her/him feel better. allow some time to just be upset and then when she's calming down ASK if she's able to talk about it now. if she says no you can offer paper and allow her to draw about what is upsetting her. the suggestion about using two bears as substitutes talking to each other could be a "safe" way to talk about what is going on.

i would guess that maybe some memories are coming up in body or in mind. there is sometimes fighting or power struggles between different alts. maybe she is lonely...

the other posters wrote good ideas and maybe you can find something among all of them that will help your little one and help you too.

ummm, don't take this the wrong way, but be sure that your objective is to actually help the little, not just get her to be quiet. i don't mean to be accusational, it's just i've been a mom and sometimes i just wanted some peace and quiet and it became hard to care what was going on, i just wanted it to stop. hugs,

leslie and her pixies

[Jewels]

i can't think of anything else that anyone else has already said...there must be something that has triggered her or she wouldn't be so upset...maybe something happened to her during this time of year that triggers her and she is scared...the important thing is to just be there for her, and explain to her that you aren't going to abandon her or throw her out...it's important to know that for a 5 year old...believe me...i know...abbi