Have to say sorry ?

Sorry is a word so small and so poweful. It can make us feel safe and at the same time unworthy , a mix feeling of emotions.

as a ... DID... person ...sorry is a word that I used a lot.
because many times.. DID persons got lost and ....that is.. the only word they can said .

Lost in time and space.. not knowing what one of my alters have done this really scares me and had the need to say sorry just in case.

There a various of reason for saying ... "sorry"

Usually have you use it?

How it make you feel?

What do think about the word "sorry'


just me genn and sorry

This is a good question. I like the word sorry and I'll say sorry even if it was a misunderstanding and I didn't really do anything harmful. But I say these things to people who are not harmful or the type of person who can suck the life out of you. These people have already passed my "screening". I don't allow the harmful types around me.

When you say sorry do you understand why you feel unworthy?

I am one to say sorry pretty quickly as well. It can mean more than just one's fault though. In response to someone saying I am upset or sick, I usually say I'm so sorry. A lot of people respond back and say, it's not your fault, but what I'm saying is that I'm sorry you are sick or I'm sorry you're upset, not to take blame, but to show sympathy.

As a dissociative, it can be hard for sure. Because there is only one body and one brain, whatever is said or done by me, regardless as to whether or not I remember, I am responsible for it. I want to say sorry because I don't want to hurt people intentionally or otherwise. While I might not be able to stop people from being hurt at times, I can do what I can to make amends and just keep working on self to get more awareness.

It's a slow process and it's hard, but it's possible. Hang in there Genn.

genn,

i use the word sorry for all the reasons already mentioned. it expresses my sad feeling that i have hurt someone or caused them some sort of trouble or difficulty.

i never heard the words I'm sorry from any adult while i grew up in a rotten homelife. i would have been very willing to forgive my adults if they had ever just said the words. the lack of those words made the bad things they did to me just that much more painful.

when i say i am sorry i sometimes feel insecure, regretful or ashamed depending on what misdemeanor i've committed or which person i am speaking too and how likely they are to just forgive me or to just put me through the ringer for messing up. my daughters forgive freely and with love. my spouse is another story. he forgives legally while they forgive from the heart. i'll take heart over law any day.

leah

Hello Genn,

I echo what ' Wanttoheal ' has mentioned. For I too am quick to say I'm sorry for those same instances. But also for another reason.

Although I am not a Dissociative, I truly believe my (Ex)?? Husband is. Because I realized he didn't know what he had done, when thru tears I would ask " Why, in our Dear Gods' name did you do that honey"?

I came to a point of saying '"I'm sorry baby I don't know why I thought it was such and such....." when I would ask him about something and see an expression on his handsome face that told me all I needed to know. That;
He was so unaware.

Oh Father God I sometimes miss him unbearablly.

I am so sorry for all that (All) of you have been through. But please remember this;
There truly is a Heavenly FATHER above, and justice is certainly awaiting them.
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So here's some little Happy's and Bunches of HUGS for everyone.

I'll always be....
4everHis(myLord)
4Grace

4grace, i am very sorry for the pain and loss you experience due to the loss of your marriage.

my husband is not diss. but i am and it is very hard and painful to me that my husband will not believe that i am dissociative. i know i do some strange things and i do confusing things that even i can't understand. we are still together in law, though seperate in actuality. i hope we can find some kind of way to heal together and get past our past.

i hope you can find healing and hope for your life. as a believer in Jesus Christ i know how much that marriage meant to you and even more how much its loss cost you. people become mpd/did because of horrible abuse and terrible pain and sadly, "hurt people hurt people". i am so sorry you became someone who got the collateral damage of your husband's past. i pray God will bless you and help you heal.

leslie and her "pixies"

Thank You so very much *Multipixie 9* , your concern for others is truly a fingerprint of our Precious Lord.
So here a little Happy and a HUG for you Sweet Lady and all your Precious "Pixies".

I'll always be....
4everHis(myLord)
4Grace