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May 02, 2009, 04:12 PM
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loving people on PC?
(and is it love if it doesn't last) confused, fuzzy
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May 02, 2009, 04:16 PM
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Hugs ((((((((( Furrypaws ))))))))))  
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May 02, 2009, 04:19 PM
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i think it depends on what you mean by "love"
to me, though, friendships can be forged online, really strong ones at that too. even if it's only through a computer screen, you can still get to know someone, and they can know you. it's nice, in a way, being friends with someone who doesn't know your name, who doesn't have to hear your voice or see your face to know that you're friends. i know people online who i trust more than people irl and i guess i can only hope things last between us. "love", i don't know, that word means different things to different people. probably didn't answer anything and i'm sure someone else will be more of a help, but take care fuzzy. |
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May 02, 2009, 05:36 PM
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Good question!
I think, just like the relationship one builds with their therapist is unlike any other, though you may tend to use the same words to describe it as a regular relationship, the same holds true here. BI (before internet)  there were no such relationships! So the "love" that occurs is a new and different one (and exciting too I hope.)
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May 02, 2009, 05:39 PM
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I totally agree with Griffe's response. Nothing else to add.
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May 02, 2009, 07:55 PM
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May 02, 2009, 08:29 PM
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We never know how long any relationship will last. Some relationships are limited to a certain setting or group of people but we can still have genuine feelings within that setting. i'll tell ya somethin' tho...
i met my best friend and soulmate on an online support group. We live on completely different "ends" of the planet but i love her with all my heart. We talk twice a day online (IM) and we've spent 2-3 weeks together six different times over the past five years. We're committed to each other and, because we both can get triggered, sometimes have to work through little kid feelings but, because we're committed to each other, we do make that effort. i share that not to say that everyone can have such a special relationship but to say that anything is possible. Sometimes people use the word "love" a bit too liberally but sometimes they are completely sincere. Me...achingly sincere.
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May 02, 2009, 08:35 PM
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If it feels like love to you, how could anyone tell you differently? But I do agree that we often want to believe that love lasts forever, and sometimes it does and other times people change and grow apart. There is something to be said for living in the moment. Keep your heart safe, keep your boundaries and be well.
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May 02, 2009, 10:12 PM
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Internet connections are fragile and often fickle. Yet once and awhile, we let our guards down and our shared human experience peeks through.
You've been there for me in a vulnerable time, prior to that experience I was cynical about internet connections. Quote:
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May 02, 2009, 11:19 PM
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(((((((( Fuzzybear ))))))))))
You show me how to love. You've seen me and loved me in an 'unlovely state' and also in 'a lovely state', sort of lol. I think 'LOVE' is a lot about loving the unlovely. Thanks for you, FUZZY  and Thanks to you from a very grateful, Ice 
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May 03, 2009, 02:24 PM
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May 03, 2009, 11:10 PM
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i would hope that what love is here is about carin an supportin an helpin each other out durin the difficult times...that dont mean itll always b the same cuz all relationships change over time...even the really strong ones...but hopefully u an others will take away somethin that the other person has said or done durin a particularly difficult time that will help them help others later on...
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May 04, 2009, 08:33 AM
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fuzzy bear caring, being there accepting the good and the bad feeling better than before being accepted seeing what isn't said having fun talks not just "issues" mutual support |
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May 04, 2009, 09:02 PM
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May 05, 2009, 12:05 PM
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I think that with a place such as PC when you met ppl and get to know them in a way that can be more personal. Ppl can be more honest and open with who they are on a forum like this. Ppl show their true selves and make deep friends in an open and honest way.
Sometimes IRL a person may be only showing you who they want you to see in their own eyes. You don't get to read all about their thoughts like you do when you read a post here. Here you get to Love the ppl you talk to in an open and honest way. They become ppl you care about, because you get to know them on a deep level you might not get to know ppl IRL on.
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May 06, 2009, 11:49 PM
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love is a tricky word that we don't understand or know very well. we always try to be kind to people on here. is that love? i don't know, but kindness means something to me. i try not to promise more than i can deliver... and i never say stuff i don't mean. my insiders may not all feel the same but none of them ever want to hurt someone here like we've all been hurt. hugs if you want them,
leslie and her pixies
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