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Nov 09, 2009, 08:54 PM
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D. and I got married this fall.
but he is so jealous he won't let me freely have my best friend and me together anymore. I have explained to him over and over again that just because Ani is a man doesn't mean we're "like that"! Before our wedding, during our courtship, D. was very supportive about my friendship with Ani. In fact, we were a "3 Muskateers" team! We always hung out together--we called ourselves the "ABC Club"---Ani, Carol and Dane! now, he can't stand me being around Ani. I thought he trusted me. I thought I could trust him to be mature and understanding. I understand jealousy, but I can't stand the hateful vibes my husband sends me. So we decided to get a divorce! Oh, g*d. B.
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Nov 13, 2009, 09:50 PM
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As a man I can understand your husbands POV. Maybe you should try looking at it from his perspective. How would you feel if his BFF was a woman? Is your behavior with your male friend appropriate? are you sharing things with him that you wouldnt with your husband? You say that he was okay with the relationship before marriage so what changed? I wouldnt give up on your marriage so quickly and over something that is easily fixed. I think its sad that so many people just throw away spouses and marriage without doing the work necessary to make it better.
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Nov 14, 2009, 12:09 AM
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I have been looking at it.
The last thing I need is a jealous husband! You don't understand, I am sorry. But you don't know the hateful looks he gives me and my friend. And there is NOTHING inappropriate about my behavior! We are friends. Nothing is going on! This is an agreement between me and D. He has agreed to let me go. Billi
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Nov 14, 2009, 12:11 AM
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PS I suggest you read my signature and not pass judgement on my situation.
As I said, there is nothing gonig on. And my friend, btw, isn't even straight and D knows that. B.
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Nov 14, 2009, 07:40 PM
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Hey Billi,
I wasnt judging you, I was merely offering my opinion, based upon your post. The truth is we all make judgements every day, good or bad. I didnt say your behavior was inappropriate, I asked if it was. Good luck with your situation. |
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Nov 15, 2009, 01:48 PM
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I think sometimes it is jealously about Time - not actions - if that makes sense
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