[kassie1]

Well now I have more to cope with... I was called by a woman today who also showed up at my work place.... to inform me that she has been having an affair with my exh during the last year and a half of our marriage. She had some questions which I refused to answer and finally told her to just take care of herself.

I am so embarrassed that so many people at work now know what is going on as she made it clear to many. I have never dealt with this before and being divorced I would think that I didn't have to. But in reality, it hurts and I am angry. It was hard enough to let go, but to find out I was betrayed in this way (amongst many others) is beyond my previous experience. I am beside myself.

[Raindropvampire]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. As if you weren't hurting enough as it was! I don't really have any helpful advice or anything just wanted you to know I think that was a crap thing to do to someone. She should be ashamed of herself coming to your work or even trying to talk to you.

[AvidReader]

((((((((((((kassie1))))))))))))

I agree with raindropvampire: That was a really rotten thing for her to do. I'm so sorry! I don't have any wise words, just wanted to say I feel bad for you, and send you some hugs.

[beauflow]

Omg that is horrible. Hugs to you. That's out of line. I really can't imagine what i'd do in that and i wont share cuz it's not constructive. That's so her-***-ment i'm sorry i'm on my phone and can't spell that right but it is. If she continues i would think you could file a report with authority. Ppl at work were witness to it. I know i know authority can be a headache but some times they can be helpful. That's so messed up i agree with the other posters she should feel awful for doing such a thing, like what good is in that? I'm sorry that some ppl are so mean and evil. I do wish you well. Try to think positive as in atleast your not still with him and he doing this to you still. He's gone now. Good bye to trash. I'm sorry if That's harsh. But try to think of your relief now that he's out of your life in the love dept. Idk how long or what step you are in divorce but it'll be over soon enough hopefully

[lynn P.]

((kassie1)) - I'm very sorry this happened to you. I can't believe the nerve of this woman to show up at your work place. She's the one who should be embarrassed and don't own the embarrassment. I wonder what was her motive - was she just boasting or is her relationship now in trouble? I don't know what I would have done - my 1st instinct would be to punch her in the nose or smile and say good luck with my left overs. What a sad example of a human being she is and make sure you tell your ex what she did. If I were you he's not worth crying any tears over. Live well...its the best revenge.

[gma45]

Originally Posted by kassie1

Well now I have more to cope with... I was called by a woman today who also showed up at my work place.... to inform me that she has been having an affair with my exh during the last year and a half of our marriage. She had some questions which I refused to answer and finally told her to just take care of herself.

I am so embarrassed that so many people at work now know what is going on as she made it clear to many. I have never dealt with this before and being divorced I would think that I didn't have to. But in reality, it hurts and I am angry. It was hard enough to let go, but to find out I was betrayed in this way (amongst many others) is beyond my previous experience. I am beside myself.

Kassie I am so sorry, I can't believe she showed up at your work, that's just rude! It's like pouring salt in a wound, as the old saying gos. I had similar thing happen to me when I got divorced, My ex worked for big company in small town. All the women had stories to tell me, It really got old! I would smile and say....Well not my problem now! Then go home and stew about it for a while, got to where I didn't want to go anywhere because I didn't want to run in to anyone as the next one that said something I may have run over not just in to! Thinking about you and wishing I could take the pain away, cause I know it does hurt. Good news is it gets better with time and you are not alone!

[kassie1]

The saga continues - this is not the only one- she was upset because he dumped her for another woman - I have cell phone numbers to confirm that there have been several others which she doesn't know about.

Her motives? She was hurt and wanted to hurt him back. Because of certain details I wish not to reveal at this time... her report to me put me in an awkward position of having to report this to a higher authority or risk getting in trouble myself. He may or may not lose his job. There is corroborating evidence and a second witness to her words. At the end of today I was informed that the higher ups were deciding what to do - and I would be notified.

so add injury to the hurt or vice versa! It still hurts and I am angry. This is going to take some time to work through. Thanks for the support.

[Caretaker Leo]

kassie, how you responded to her was the right way to go! Kudos to you! Hope that the results come out in your favor. If he loses his job - it sure isn't your fault. He has to own up to his own actions.