there has to be someone that is in the same boat

i am so tired of giveing and loveing someone that just dont fel the same for me...there has to be someone in this world that is right now looking and wanting to just not be alone anymore.

What's wrong with being alone????

I have been the happiest that I have ever been in my life after leaving my husband after 33 years.....that was 5 years ago.

You have to look at the relationship in a logical way.......love is a 2 way street, otherwise it's NOT REALLY LOVE....it's infatiation about you wanted the relationship to be, but the reality of it wasn't a loving relationship.

When you start to look at your life realistically along with your relationships & when you don't feel like you HAVE to be with someone, that's the time when the right person may come along.

It's important to have your life together & not depend on someone else to make your life happy before you will ever be able to have a real loving relationship.

Sometimes being alone has it's advantages. Yes it gets lonely from time to time but with all the drama and head games going on these days who needs it?? Relationships take alot of hard work and energy and people don't seem to have the energy to invest anymore in long term relationships.

I am in the same boat as you and I understand. The thing is, it's true what the others said about being alone but honestly I know what it's like to want to find someone to be with. I mean truthfully, being alone can be a good thing but some of us just aren't cut out to be alone. And I don't mean it in a dysfunctional way. I grew up with a family of 6, my mother and father are still together, I don't know how many years now, to be honest but I'm the youngest of 4, and I'm 45. So being in a relationship was just something that's a given in life. It's like I think "it's what you do." If that makes any sense.

I wish I had advice for you. I'm in the same boat with someone I wanted to be with (still do really) but she says she is unable to be with me. It's not even that she isn't attached to me, but a full-on relationship is out of the question for her. So as soon as you figure out what to do, let me know!

*hugs*

I agree that sometimes it is advantageous to be alone. I'm working on that myself, that is, coming to terms with that fact.

That being said, I wanted to say that all the drama and head games in relationships is 1.) worth it if you love the person and 2.) I dont' think we avoid drama and head games by being without a gf/bf or what not. Life is a drama itself, so I figure why not be with someone to share the drama rather than deal with life's challenges alone? Idk if this makes sense. I figure even with just close friends, you're gonna have different kind of drama anyway. Just a thought.

I agree with most of what you said. It is something that I know I should do in my life too.. learn to look at relationships in a more healthy way and come to a place where the relationship isn't "needed" but just "icing on the cake of life"

I only disagree on one thing, you can love someone without them loving you too. True it's a one way relationship but it can be more than "infatuation" even if they dont' love you back. *hugs*

Ethically speaking, should people who have schizophrenia be involved with someone? Should they bring in their problems in the relationship? Should they engaged in a path that may produce offsprings? Would their offsprings appreciate their inheritance? Wouldn't there be more family drama and stress on the individual? If so, then better to remain single, better for the ill person.

if you are finding yourself alone, it is by your choice. this may be tough love, but it is still true. Women are like buses, there will be another one by in a moment!

Be true to yourself, be friendly and bravely get back on that old nag (try for a cute filly this time, instead) after you have been bucked off

That's the story of my life. Never have felt truly loved until my daughter was born (if I had to do it over I would have never told her father that I was pregnant). He is an bully, control freak, and emotionally abusive. He uses her to hurt me. He falsified financial documents in our divorce. He was having his "*****" girlfriend live in my house with my child present for almost 6 months prior to the divorce and 3 days after the papers were signed they drove across the state line and got married illegally. And now i wish he would just disappear and leave us alone. You don't have a 8 year old that is terrifed to ask her Dad if she can spend the night with her own mother (we have joint custody and live 5 miles apart). He won't answer the phone or let her call me. It's time for me to just kick his *** in court. I have enough to get him in major trouble. You got love yourself first though. I haven't found out how to do that yet either. I know how you feel and know you aren't alone.