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I'm married almost 40 yr's and still can't convay my true self to
my wife. I think that what happens over the years we drifted apart from each other rather than grow closer. I'm devistated that at this point in my life I have to go thru this. When two people can't talk to each other openly and honestly then there is, in my opinion ,nothing.
It's a sad fact that today most older people stay together for finantial reasons rather than real love for each other. If there was some
honest and real communication early on I think things would be much .
different.
cb

[Leed]

Why don't you go to marriage counseling? There, you can LEARN to communicate. The therapist can actually teach you how to talk to each other, and how to LISTEN. You two cannot throw 40 years away! It would be devastating to do that.

So many people don't know how to communicate and after so many years they just assume the other person knows what they mean, or knows what they want. That couldn't be further from the truth. If you don't talk about things or say what you want or need, you're certainly not going to get it!
No one is a mind-reader.

Ask you wife if she would be open to a marriage counselor. Ask her if she'd be willing to work on this marriage. If she answers no, then you've got your answer as to how much she thinks about this marriage. But I hope she's willing to work on it for both your sakes. God bless & PLEASE let us know how things work out, will you? Take care. Hugs, Lee

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Leed , thank you for yopur kind words and advice. I have to tell you that I am totally open for communication but she is not. She told me that couple counseling is out of the question. My wife has told me that she doesnt want to even touch me. I will probably never make love to my wife again. She doesnt want to be touched. I dont know how much more of this I can take. I dont want to live like this anymore or at all. I am totally depressed. The tears cloud my eyes......................