Adjusting to each other

Well to start things off I have been with my bf got almost three years and now we have month old son.. He has been going through a custody battle for almost 4 years for his 10 year old daughter they can't agree apon anything with her well since the very beginning we have noticed that she has had very horrible issues with school and it has just gotten way worse as this situation goes on cant get her mother to send her to school most if the time she has her and his daughter feeds off the fact that she knows her mother won't force her to and if she attends she leaves early because she calls her mother to come get her. Other issues we have with schooling is that her mother is more worried about weather she has her snow suit or after school activities rather then the fact that she is completely failing We have an attrney and we have brought this to his attention well just recently for Easter her mother refused to let us have her for our holiday and come to find out she spent it with the mothers bf who we have found out has a criminal record that we can't get any info about and my bf daughter informed us that she spent the night with her mother at the bf house and that my bf daughter slept in the same bed has him and her mother we informed our lawyer and asked what would happen if we don't send her back he said she would call the cops Can someone tell us what our options are before something horrible happens that will affect her the rest of her life

Your lawyer should be able to advise you! He's certainly NOT doing his job! I would get the child's school records for one thing, i.e. attendance/grades, etc., and that would show that the mother isn't MAKING the child go to school, or do homework, etc. Your bf would have to get these records, as I doubt the school would give them to you. Perhaps your attorney could use these to show that the mother isn't "doing her job." You're going to need proof as far as showing that the mother is neglectful and isn't a "good" mother. Putting the child in bed with the 2 of them is certainly abusive. But I don't know how you're going to prove that unless the child talks to the judge, and that's not a good idea.

Like I said, your attorney should be advising you. Seems like HE could be coming up with some ideas. I wish I had some advice for you. Maybe others will chime in. I hope so! God bless and good luck! Hugs, Lee

we actually have all the school records and still not doing anything its like its a big joke it seems like its just going around and around like a joke we have tryed everything its like the lawyers dont see that this is not good and that in the long run its his daughter that is suffering and possibly will be affected by this in the future thanks for your report!!!!