[heavyhauler]

I have to question my own level of sanity or major lack there of anyhow
I'm an OTR truck driver and my ex incessantly assumed and or accused me of cheating in which there is no basis for as I explained to her CHEATING goes against my moral character as a man as well my personal integrity and I wouldn't go there however the assumptions and accusations continueI stopped driving a Trk and started working a local job because of physical and mental exhaustion I was working 18 hrs a day 6-7 days a week although I hate admitting it I had become an asshole on many levels I never restricted any part of her life I made many mistakes throughout our marriage I'm not perfect and I never expected her to be We had two amazing children and our issues boiled over primarily due to a major lack of communication I would have to beg her to talk with me I would get 3-4 words out of her and nothing more for hrs no matter if I attempted to open a dialogue with her I was met with resistance The company I was working for laid me off so I had to go back OTR to support my family and those whom I thought were my friends lied to her telling her fabricated nonsense that pushed our marriage further out onto the rocks. then to make matters worse I got hurt on the job 1200 miles from my front door while waiting on a release from the Dr I wasn't able to drive therefore stuck I was struck by a glancing blow of steel under around 9000 lbs of fforce

[Nicks_Nose]

Hi Heavy hauler. My father worked in industry most of his career and my mother was a stay at home wife with a few blips of employment in the middle of their marriage. When my father retired, there was such a difficulty adapting to him being home all the time. She was used to him being gone all hours and having control of the home and he was used to being physically and mentally challenged all the time. It took a lot of adjustment for both of them. Mom was used to pattern of chores and when Dad tried to help it seemed he was always under foot. Dad ended up playing solitaire on the computer all day. it was a difficult change at first.

I am sorry to hear of your injury. That is another major stressor. It sounds like a bit of counselling might help you both try to re-establish the marriage again. Issues have to be discussed but with help. My parents had a temporary separation in the middle of their marriage and returned to make it much stronger. I am in a life's crossroads myself with empty nest after raising my two sons as a single mom and they are leaving home now. This stage of life also took a drastic couple of turns but I am finally seeing some positives now. This is a bumpy road and you will feel overwhelmed at times. By all means, seek help when you do and know that you are not alone. The support is there for you whether she takes it or not.