I think separated uncle is having mental problems

My uncle has been separated from his wife for a few months.... he's done this more than once, on Facebook he will declare has looking for a female roommate with benefits, put up a personal ad, then the next day literally say he is going to murder whoever gets with his wife, or yesterday claiming he knows his wife is cheating and is going to murder the man.

He is concerning me... I feel like showing these posts to someone and getting him help. I know he's been on mental meds before and I don't know if he is now.

Hello birdcrazy: I don't know as I have much of anything useful I can offer here. But I saw that no one had replied to your post, so I thought I would.

I'm not sure what you have in mind here as far as showing your uncle's posts to someone goes. Personally I don't know who you could show them to that would make a difference. Really, the only person who has any power in this situation is your uncle's wife. And her options are, unfortunately, limited. She could, perhaps, seek an order of protection. However, these often seem to be of little value when it comes right down to it. Unfortunately threats, in-&-of themselves, are not illegal in most cases.

Your concern for your uncle's wife is certainly to be commended. It may be that the best thing you can do is to offer her whatever amount of emotional support she would like & you are able to provide. From what you wrote, I would suspect she may appreciate a thoughtful gesture. My best wishes to you...

Welcome to the PC forums! You will find a lot of support here.

I'm not familiar with FB, but I believe there is a blocking feature. Perhaps that is in order. It will remove a platform for your uncle's concerning comments. He may be grandstanding or he may be serious, I can't speculate on that.

You said he has mental problems and he certainly is upset. Therapy may help
him as well, as a visit to his doctor for an examination, if he is not already in treatment.

Wishing the best for you and your family.

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Have you or your parents tried speaking with him about his online behavior? It does sound concerning and threatening remarks aren't to be viewed lightly. It is understandable how heightened his emotions are. Separation and Divorce tear down self esteem regardless of who initiates. Anger is a normal feeling to have. His rejection triggers seem all over the place. Certainly one moment he's seeking some form of companionship probably to sooth that pain and on the other hand resentment turns to rage at the thought that the woman he once was married to could even move on.
If your aunt feels threatened and that her life could be in danger, it's up to her to decide how to proceed. From a personal standpoint, my ex did threaten me and whomever I had moved onto after 3 years divorced. But that wasn't what brought about a restraining order that was into its second year. He physically assaulted me, almost broke my elbow trying to grab a little tape recorder bruised me up good and forced me out of my car as it was the door frame that he had my arm against when the police came. People working at a business next door called. He ended up with probation, fine, anger management, some good friends that are in both of our circles to address himself. The restraining order came off via the family probate court, the judge felt that it would be beneficial as to make the shared legal custody work better and to create a co parenting situation that benefits the children's best interest. That with the understanding that another assault will result in jail time, plain and simple.

There's validity in this point. As I mentioned about family probate optioning to remove a standing order, what was beginning to occur was him abusing me through the order and leeching onto supposed custody violations and dragging me into court. For instance, phone calls with the children; their prepaid minutes, which he was responsible ran out once and sure enough, into court we went. It wasn't upheld that I was in contempt, but what a hassle.

I might just take the information to the police & see if they will write up a report against him. That way if anything happens the threat is on record. Have no idea if police will do that for that reason of if it actually has to come from the person being threatened ( think this is probably how it works).

Some people can be such jerks & take their jerkiness to social media.

I commend that you are so concerned with your uncle; however, I am not sure of all that you can do as far as his posts are concerned. You could discuss this with your parents and possibly your uncle. Perhaps if you or another family member he feels close with talks to him, you might be able to reason. Also, you can block people on Facebook, which might be something you can look into. It sounds like he is going through quite a difficult time, so offering support is very beneficial. You could even suggest that he seek counseling services in order to resolve some of his issues. Good luck with everything, and please keep us informed.