My New Wasband

My husband and I finally ended our relationship a couple of hrs ago! It's been a long time in the making. Actually were not really married, I don't believe in that s***! We're just common law. Thank goodness because it's not expensive. We are still going to be friendly toward each other and fortunately my daughter and I are living in our trailer, and my wasband is living in our back shop. Thankfully we have 3 acres to share, and we're not fighting over it. My half of the mortgage is 350 so that's not bad at all, but I am a little financially f'd but the piece of mind is so so so so did I say so? worth it!!!!!!!!!!!
He has done so many things to me, like cutting up a gorgeous pair of wool lined wool slippers that my mom gave to me after my still birth, he's torn apart some clothing, smashed my computer, lied to me continuously, been financially controlling, even though I was working full time before I was diagnosed bipolar 4 yrs ago. I even caught him making out with one of my "friends" when our daughter was 4 months old!

I'm not playing the "victim" here trust me! Nobody's an angel
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I know I should have left him years ago. But now I'm glad it's finally over, so my daughter doesn't have to live with our tumultuous and loveless relationship. My hope for her is to find a man that treats her right and doesn't try to have constant control over her.

Now I'm part of the 90% failure rate of marriages that have one bipolar person involved. Our relationship really hit a downward spiral after I got diagnosed 4 yrs ago. I've been diagnosed depressed since I was 18 and he is aware of that, but since my BP diagnosis, he hasn't been able to handle it. And I totally get that....I can't stand myself sometimes, and I don't expect anyone else to either.

To be fair, he did look after everything during my 2 hospital stays, but he's done nothing to understand my mental condition. I've tried to educate him a bit, but he didn't want to listen. I even encouraged him to learn about it himself, and he told me he didn't need to because he wasn't the one who was bipolar? WTF? Thanks loving, caring, supportive partner!

What ever, I'm a bit sad, but mostly relieved! Thanks for letting me vent!

That's the great thing about PC is you can vent any time you need to. I can understand your feeling a bit sad and relieved at the same time. I went through that with my divorce. Still feel that way sometimes and it's been a long time, but left me feeling like a failure.

Glad you have a place to yourself. Hopefully you can put your life back in order and raise your little girl with a good self-esteem so that it want happen to her.

I never heard the term 'wasband' before- love it! It was a good thing you didn't have to get a legal divorce.

It doesn't sound like the marriage failed because of you, but look at his behavior--

Wishing you the best of everything moving forward.

"Wasband"
great term!

Him destroying your stuff doesnt sound like a side effect of your bipolar. It just sounds mean and petty.

My wife does things like that.

When you're living in separate places he can smash up everything in his home.