[MrMoose]

Separation is exhausting, it looks like living post divorce and raising kids is exhausting. But the worst part is inflicting any or all of this on friends, even close, caring friends: I think even they get exhausted. I dont blame them--its so much of the same all the time, week in and week out. I read some of the threads here and think "cut it out and move on already" but I know in reality thats awfully difficult.

[MrMoose]

Okay, obviously I was having a bad afternoon. I'm in a lighter mood this evening, especially happy that my wife didnt start a fight with younger daughter and didnt smash anything (well, apart from one door on a kitchen cabinet). And I've been looking at apartments for rent. Younger daughter confirms yet again she wants out (well, yeah, the tension in this place since the -summer was terrible, and I'm sure she's tired of getting slapped around by Mom). So Im at least thinking I should be able to escape soon.

[continuosly blue]

Originally Posted by MrMoose

Separation is exhausting, it looks like living post divorce and raising kids is exhausting. But the worst part is inflicting any or all of this on friends, even close, caring friends: I think even they get exhausted. I dont blame them--its so much of the same all the time, week in and week out. I read some of the threads here and think "cut it out and move on already" but I know in reality thats awfully difficult.

Your right , it is very exhausting. It plain sucks. I found out that it seems the more "emotional one" has the hardest time with it. The unemotional realistic people just figure out a way to "move on" and pretend its just an annoying problem that has to be dealt with like deciding what to have for dinner that night.
Also circumstances play a big role. If you have "somebody in the wings" waiting , resources , and true help , it can be , and will make it ,easier to deal with.
If you have "friends or family" that "are tired of hearing about it" then they're not real friends.
In short it's just a shame that there is so much separation and divorce going on
because of so many different reasons. But that's the way of the human condition.
Believe me , I know what your going thru. I know how hurtful and painful it can be.
It's a cliché , but "hang in there" somehow seems to be the only way to let time and hopeful circumstances move you forward.

[eskielover]

Living separated in the same house for 13 years was exhausting too. Living for 9 years 2100 miles away has been great. Getting a divorce long distance is challenging also but basically ends up just walking away from it all. Thankfully daughter is grown up & sees the big picture too.

The situation you are in has to be sooo difficult. Can feel for your frustration

[fishin fool]

Separation and divorce are tough to go through but it does eventually get better.
I have also been through it and it is exhausting like you say.
Once it all settles down a bit you will be ok I am sure of it.