[Lemon]

This is hilarious. Probably not what I'm going for but it gave me a laugh....

Wedding Ring Coffin

[Rhapsody]

Thats a good one - I would buy one and then send it (with ring included) to him all wrapped in black with a black rose - lol.

Ohhhhhhhhh... I wish I had had that... too funny

I would have sent it via singing telegram... then had them take a picture of his face... and had it framed...

[sunrise]

On a serious note, I have read of some people doing "divorce ceremonies." You don't do it together with your divorcing spouse, but it is kind of a celebration for you and your friends and your family. You gather together, maybe have a ceremony and bid good-bye to the old, then celebrate the start of your new life. Sometimes there is part of the ceremony where you smash your wedding/engagement ring with a hammer. And I read about this one company who will then take your smashed jewelry and create a unique piece of jewelry out of that, as a memento of the end of your old life and a symbol of the new.

I don't think I'll be doing that when our divorce is final as my husband never gave me an engagement ring (he didn't realize there was an engagement ring and a separate wedding ring). And I took my wedding ring off several years ago due to a weight gain and I seem to have misplaced it. It's probably somewhere around, but I am not inspired to go look for it.

As far as celebrations go, my two sisters and I do have some plans. One sister has a great bottle of champagne from Dundee, and we are going to get together and down it all, plus other stuff too. My sisters have both been very supportive.

[Lemon]

Sunrise, I like the idea of a divorce ceremony. it is great that you have supportive sisters. I wish i had that. My family isn't unsupportive they just don't ask/talk about what i'm going through at all. I don't feel comfortable sharing a lot of stuff with them so I'm going to try to find another way to mark the event.

When things get tough in the next couple months you can look forward to that bottle of champaign!

Years ago... I did smash my band... then years after that.. I took it.. and two other rings that were from my childhood - really bad memories from them..

Took them to a local jewlery designer.. and described what I wanted... and he created a most beautiful ring.. from all that "crap".. it is a very heavy ring. due to all the gold of the 3 rings .. and I choose a stone that was symbolic to me..

But.. I love the ring.. out of uglyness came something very beautiful... sorta like a healing.. process...

[sunrise]

Here's a link to some musings on divorce ceremonies/rituals:
http://lawlady.typepad.com/lawlady_b...ual/index.html

I liked this little bit:
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The pain of divorce is a shadow pain in our culture. People going through severe break ups or divorce can have intense emotions but largely these feelings go ignored or missed by others. Our culture does not embrace the harder emotions (typically) and of all the types of grief, the grief of break up and divorce is probably one of the more unacknowledged varierties.

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freewill, your ring sounds beautiful. And very healing.