When did you take your ring off?

Just curious...if you are divorced when did you decide to take your wedding ring off? My divorce isn't final yet and I was thinking I'd wait until the final papers are signed to actually take off my wedding ring. But, I feel weird wearing it now. It feels sort-of like a lie to me even though we're still officially married. I don't have any plans to date for awhile so it doesn't have anything to do with that. (I'm a believer in the one year rule!) but I'm beginning to feel awkward about wearing a wedding ring. On the flip side it will be sad to finally take it off and I'm not sure if I'm ready to do that. Seems like there should be something to go along with taking it off since there is a huge ceremony that goes with putting it on! LOL

That is such a thought provoking question.. so hard to decide.. isn't it...

I never had a diamond... so it was just the band... and yepper I wore it for about 5 years after the divorce was final.. and I was the one that wanted the divorce..
my divorce took I think about 2 1/2 years.. timeframe..it was many years ago...

I think it is such a personal decsion... everyone.. and every situation is so different..

isn't it....

I wear mine off and on, and it's been 13 years!

Don't let it stress you out. Wear it as you choose.
TC,
Okie

I feel that the valuable diamond is safer on my hand than just laying around. I'm not divorced....just in the process of separation, but I bought my own diamond ring anyway, so there is no sentimental feelings about it anyway. I just thought the ring was pretty & I didn't have an engagement ring anyway.....just a band.

I have lots of rings so this is just another one.

Debbie

I just have a gold band, not an engagement ring, and you all will probably think this is strange, but I haven't worn my wedding band for about 10 years. I am still married, but not yet separated, and we are going through the divorce process. I gained weight when I had my second child and never got back in the habit of wearing the ring. I am quite a bit heavier than I was before, and I don't think the ring fits anymore. I was never motivated to get it enlarged, because I kept thinking I would lose the weight (and I still want to!).

I don't think my husband wears his wedding band either, but I'm not sure when he took it off. Given his infidelity, my guess is he probably wouldn't want women to know he was married.

Mine came off the day I filed papers...it was easy for me though...our marriage was dead two years prior

i took mine off 2 years before i filed the divorce papers, put it in a draw and left it there when i realised my marriage was dead, reasoning i was only kidding myself that there was still a chance of getting back together with her by continuing to wear it, my previous 9 months of sleeping on the couch was all the validation i needed for this reasoning.

the wife did the same with her rings but only because her boyfriend didnt like her wearing them around him,

my ring remained in the same draw when i packed up and left, any and all sentimental values were firmly extinguished by this time so was not worth taking.

Two and a half years before the divorce, took it to the pawn shop and sold it (was just a gold band). He kept his for about a year, then he finally got rid of his.

We had this revolving door thing going on for five years, so after the divorce, it happened to be one of the times we were back together (if you want to call it that), he bought me a 2nd wedding band, but with diamonds this time, he paid $2,000 for it, I refused to take it. But I still remember how beautiful and how much it sparkled! I guess I wanted the ring but not what came with it...

I took mine off the night he admitted to his affair. It was over for me then.

Juli

The people I know who are divorced all seem to do the same thing...wear thier wedding ring on the opposite hand, almost as a sign that hey are not married now but were once.

When I found somone else I thought nows the time to go 'out with the old in with the new' so got him to buy me a ring to put on the finger !

Just an excuse for more bling lol.

We split 25 months ago and signed the divorce papers last month...I wore my rings on the right hand for a short period then took them off- I wanted nothing more to do with him than I could help (we have children together). I did feel lost without them though so wear 4 rings on 3 fingers- 2 on the left hand (not the 'ring finger'!) and 2 on the right. I dont know what I will do with the wedding/engagement rings- when we got engaged I had to buy my own ring and could only afford cubic zirconia so the rings (the other is just a gold band) are worth next to nothing. I think I will probably let my daughters have them when they are older if they want them...

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I dont know what I will do with the wedding/engagement rings- ...I think I will probably let my daughters have them when they are older if they want them...

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sujunew, that's what I'm planning to do with my rings also. I have a wedding band and a 12th anniversary diamond ring (no engagement ring). I also have a matching set my H's mom gave me from his parents (she doesn't wear them because she divorced and remarried so she wears the rings from her current marriage). So I will give one set to each of my daughters when they are older.

I removed mine when my ex-husband and I decided that we no longer wanted to be together. I still have the ring (since I paid for it) but the actual wedding band that he brought I threw into the ocean while I was still serving on a Naval ship (I'm in the Navy) my now fiance(at the time boyfriend) was there. After I had thrown it in...it felt as if a great weight had been taken off my shoulders. Even though the divorce hadn't been finalized yet...it still felt like an ending to me.

But in the end, you should remove it when you feel it is time to do so.

The same day I found out my wife was cheating on me..!

When he moved out and I packed his things for him, I put the rings in an envelope in the bottom of his suitcase.

you know i have never been married sometimes
marrage is like being a prisoner with a ball and chain but i guess if it with the right person its ok i dont know my mom stopped the day she said it was over

I found out the end of March that my husband wanted a divorce. Just last week I took my ring off and put it away. I'm trying to decide whether to keep it or smash it and mail it to him when the divorce becomes final...LOL. The jury is still out on that decision and I'll take my time with it.


sabby

can't recall.

There was a time that wearing a wedding ring kept the opposite sex from approaching you... however with infidelity the way it is (and maybe with really available people still wearing their rings? ) ) that isn't so any more.

TC

You said you feel weird wearing it. I would too. Invite your dearest friend or friends over and make your own ceremony. It may be bitter sweet but I totally understand the feeling. My common law husband died before the big wedding we were planning. A year later I couldn't bring myself to ignore the anniversary of what was to be our wedding ceremony day so I invited 3 close friends over and we had a cake. It was sad but it got me through. If I can do something that strange you can do a bit of a ceremony to take your ring off.

I took my ring off the moment I found out that my husband had been unfaithful to me. It will either stay off or go back on when a whole pile of issues are resolved. Take it off, you need to be released.

I have thought about this more...and I think I took it off the day he asked for a divorce: on our 26th wedding anniversary!

There used to be a company that let you smash the band down yourself (they provide the tools and place) and then they made it into another piece of jewelry for you.

I can't get my ring off
I've put on weight
but so far I still feel
it protects me from unwanted interest from
others....
I don't want anyone anymore
27 years of marriage was enough for me...

It seems like the rings came off and back on for a few years. She said she did'nt like to wear them when she was working out. I assume her boyfriend did'nt want to see
her wearing them. She eventually gave me her rings and I gave her mine. She ended up with all the rings!

The day a man came to my house and paid me cash after placing an ad in the local paper.